Husbands with a bi wife

Is your wife or gf bi and enjoying the pleasure of another woman? How does it work for you, indiviually and as a couple?
My wife is bi and has occasional get togethers with another married wife in town. I'm the only one who knows. The other husband doesn't have any idea. I encourged them and they actually took me up on it. They didn't need my approval, but they both feel like they have someone who understands and approves. I am not jealous, other than the fact that I would love to be in the middle, or watch,but I accept that they don't have any desires to be with them or see me watching them. The reason they do it is for THEM.
I will admit that I masturbate and think about what they do.
Today is the first day of school and I know that they will be getting together for "coffee" in the mornings, after dropping the kids off.

 

I'm bi but I don't think that my hubby would like me being with another girl. That stopped when I said yes.

 

It can cause alot of problems, even when she brings it up and picks the girl.....

 

I'm the same as Sarahrei. I still think about sometimes and enjoying looking at girls but it was something I compromised when I decided to be with him. He doesn't even like the thought of me being with another girl because as he says "he cares too much for me" to think about me being with someone else. If you're okay with her having some cake on the side, kudos buddy. But don't be a pushover.

 

I agree, some girls tend to get carried away with a open relationship, and use it as a excuse not to have sex with the person that they are really with.

 

My husband and I have played with other couples and had 3somes a few times. We never play alone, only when we are together. It works for us.

We have an incredible sex life without bringing anyone else into it, but have enjoyed a little extra activity now and then.

We have a very strong relationship. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who has even the slightest little issue in their relationship.

And, all of our partners/actvities were carefully considered and researched before they happened. These were not casual sex with strangers. You still have to be careful about who you play with these days!

 

Exactly. I have mentioned trying an open relationship with my husband but I couldn't do it. In turn I couldn't be upset if he couldn't deal with me being with another girl. Sex is sex. No matter who or what gender it is with.

 

If they wouldn't even let me watch then I would put the brakes on that quick.

 

The way I see it. She isn't cheating. She is doing it with another wife/mom in town, when they have time and get together. I would like to see from a curiosity standpoint, even joining in, but that isn't what it's about. It's about her enjoying a little fun with another woman who is married and feels the same. I am the keeper of their little secret and I am happy to let them be happy.
Listen. The last thing they want to see there, is me. Trying to please two crazy women would probably give me a heart attack. I would only be in the way, even watching. I'm cool with it. We are all just about 60 and can't see anything to get hung up about. It's unfortunate that our friends husband isn't as cool as she is.

 

As long as your cool with it then I say good for you bro. Still think you deserve a peak though

 

This is only true if the woman/man you're with does not want to have sex with you. Just like anything else I suppose. Open relationship doesnt mean auto disrespect.

 

Oh I agree with you for sure dave. But I know that alot of women will ask for a open relationship when they are already mentaly checked out. Thats only in my personal expierence though.

 

Sara, that's very true. In my first marriage, I looked outside of my marriage for what I wasn't getting inside of the marriage. (I was married for 16 years and checked out after about 10.)

This is why I say that people should never "go there" unless they have absolutely no questions or issues in their current relationship. And, it's also very important to be sure that both of you want to bring outside parties in to play. In my marriage, if it's not good for both, we don't go there. That wouldn't be fair.

Afterall, your marriage (or long term committed relationship) is the most important thing and nothing is worth ruining that over.

 

Wow, pretty intense relationship. Actually sounds fun but I don'tknow that my personality could take my partner being with another.

 

We have a very stable, happy and healthy relationship. We even own 2 businesses together. We have no questions about the strength of our commitment to each other.

When other friends come into our sex life - it's play. That's it.

 

Sounds ideal

 

I agree with other posters that this kind of thing is only for couples that are very solid and secure.

 

Nothing like a honest answer

 

My wife is bisexual. I am good with that and so is she. But, we also believe in Monogamamy. There are no others allowed for us. We both have a very hard time sharing, so it works best for us. Sexually I just could not share my wife. When I was dating (no emotional committtment) it was no problem though.

 

God I Wish My Wife Was Bi