I bought a dildo several years ago for vaginal use but because it wasn't appreciated by my wife, so I started using it as an anal toy for my own use instead, So it was worth buying it thou
But we all know in actual fact you knew your wife wouldnt want it and you knew you would use it yourself lol.
I don't have a husband, which solves the problem, but I would not be too keen on him using the dildo on himself (yes..... back there!!) and then passing it to me to stick it somewhere inside me. The other way round - who cares.
It was a gamble buying it in the hope she would let me use it inside her & she did but not very often. I just use it the odd time to stimulate her & clean it well after I've used it myself. It wasn't an expensive vibrator just a special price I got it for with a few other sex toys I bought at the same time. I like some of those sex toys that are unisex types.
Bought my wife a medium sized vibrator, we have used it together and she has used it on me. We always wash it when we are done. I think the best is when she has it inserted in her ass and I penetrate her vagina. I can feel it through the wall that separates the two and she really seems to like it too. Sometimes we DP her vagina with it and me. That feels pretty awesome, but you do need to use extra lube so that it doesn’t rub on your penis and cause pain. I’d do a double ended dildo where one end is in her and the other in me.