I have a daugher, she's twelve months old. I have a fiance, he's 20. I have myself, 19. I have my new family, 1 year. So my fiance wants me to hurry and move in with him, in two weeks. Less than two weeks, without much warning. Now I'm freaking out, cause it's two hours away from my family. Two hours from my daughters family. Two hours from my entire life. Two hours from my first actual home. Two hours from my world. And they can say you can visit, but it's rare... it's really rare. I don't know what to do.
2 hours away you can still see everyone pretty often..and when your movin in and startin a life together ya dont really want family right next door anyway..lol but do you feel ready to start livin together? maybe you should talk and have it more an offer to live together soon as your ready, instead of a 2 week deadline, move in slowly over time? 2 hours is nothin u can drive that in well..2 hours no big deal
Agree there should be no hurry, no one can put pressure on you like that. YOu have to decide when and where you want to go and when you are ready to do the going....
Talk it out with him, tell him you need more time. Move some of your stuff in so you can easily stay the night but live where you are still so it's not necessarily such a huge change.
Im 18 and live 3 hours from my little family. When i was 17 i lived a plane journey away, in France. I miss people, but it feels like progression Good luck with everything
I agree with other posters -- don't rush into anything you're not comfortable with. How long have you been with your fiance? Is he your daughter's daddy? Are you feeling rushed about the idea of moving in with him or simply uncomfortable with moving away from your family (so would be happy to move in with him if he lived in the same town as you do now)? That totally depends on who you are and the circumstances of your life. If you don't have a reliable car, 2 hours away is not nothing. If you're barely getting by finanacially, the gas money for a 4 hour round trip limits how often you can make that trip. If you're working a large number of hours (60/week) or if you're a student who is swamped with reading to do, a 4 hour round trip may not be feasible all that often. Not knowing the circumstances of the OP's life, being 2 hours away from family can be pretty scary.
I live just over 2 hours away from my family. Just guessing, I see them once every three weeks on average. Not that big a deal for me, but then again, I don't have a young daughter to worry about.
sounds like he's not really taking you into consideration, just what he wants. why would you want to marry someone like that?! :| dont let anyone control you or coerce you into something you dont want!
Ah he's not controlling me.. if anything he wants to be closer to me and he's trying to protect me as well. I live with my daughters dad at this time, but he's abusive... feels weird to say that, as I've been in denial for a long time now... so no, he's not the biological father, I wish he was though...
Well, in that case, I don't care if you have to move to the other side of the country, get the hell out of the abusive boy's house. You're now living with a daughter in an abusive situation. What you want is irrelevant -- your daughter's safety (mental as well as physical). Whether you believe he would ever directly abuse her is irrelevant -- seeing daddy hurt mommy like that is harmful to your child. Why are you still living with this person? What other options do you have -- could you move in with your parents? Whatever you do, don't stay where you are.
Listen to YOURSELF, you are telling yourself no, no, no! LISTEN to yourself, your best friend and the only person you can trust. Listen to yourself or you'll be sorry.......
heres the deal, she lives with this guy and he tells her on a daily basis that she is a bad mother a horrible womant a **** a whore a slut, anything he can think of to make her feel like shit, hes physically abused her several times, he verbally abuses several times daily, when she had come to my house with lily i would playfully climb on top of her and kiss her and lily would freak out because she thought i was hurting her, thus lily is already being affected by the abuse which is very unhealthy. im trying to get her to move here 2 hours away with me so she can be safe, so i can give her and lily a safe enviroment and provide for them. she has very low self esteem because of charlie and its not helping that he is there every day being derogatory towards her. we've spoken about this since this post was made and ive laxed on the whole moving in with me thing, because it IS her decision and her life to lead. i wouldnt mind as much if it was a situation where we both lived in the same town or somewhat close, not a 3 hour drive away. just some clarification and information on the point, and i must defend myself because the last thing i am is controlling. i agree wholeheartedly
