humiliation - what is the big turn on ?

In the BDSM world / sub/dom a sub love to be humiliated. What is the big turn on to be humiliated?

 

What I love about humiliation is that whilst it is still very sexual play it is a complete role reversal from what I normally do. There is nervous excitement about not being in control, not knowing what is going to happen next, what I might be made to do, what I might have forced upon me, if I will like it or not. I enjoy being stripped and dressed up exactly how someone wants me to be for their pleasure. I love the thrill of being restrained or tied up and not knowing what will happen next. I love being called dirty degrading names in those circumstances. But above all, for me, whatever is happening, what I love the most is that I am being ultra submissive to someone who is hopefully having the best time they can possibly want dominating and humiliating me and that makes me happy for them.

 

My wife enjoys spanking and always has but her big thing is submissiveness and humiliation.

when dominant men spot her submissiveness (usually at work or at activities) she gets so aroused if they test her. And if they do then she is fully submissive to them.

The humiliation is more complex and she has sought that since she was a teenager. Usually it was sex with older inappropriate men eg her father’s friends and her school friends fathers. The fact they were unattractive, older and known to her made it humiliating to let them have sex with her. When she was 18 she let a 70 year old church elder have sex with her.

There have been many occasions she has had sex with or shown her pussy to men because it was humiliating given who they were.

One dominant team leader who would shout at her if she made a mistake devised a punishment system where she had to take her panties off and hand them to him if she got something wrong. There were three other men on that team so she had to take them off in front of them. Totally humiliating but she found it arousing.

It’s complex.

 

It's a false generalization to say that submissives love to be humiliated by their Doms/Dommes. Some do, and some do not.

Humiliation is a form of emotional masochism on the receiving end, and some subs are turned on by it, but most are not. It's a form of emotional sadism on the delivering end, and some Doms/Dommes are turned on by it, but most are not.

I enjoy it, but it's not for everyone. The same is true of physical punishment, binding restraint, or any other form of power-exchange (Dom/sub) play.

 

Well said. It’s not a simple assumption to make. Doms often treasure their subs and humiliation is hugely different to submission.

My wife enjoys both but she is the driver of the humiliation and has been since she was a teenager.

 

Not very exciting, but.....I love tight ball/cock rings, but i'd love to be pisssed on. I've asked my wife many times and she just laughs.

 

thank you for sharing

 

well maybe yall can give me some idea hes loves humalitioin but honestly i have no ideas

 

As others have pointed out, the original poster clearly does not understand the difference between submission and humiliation. While they can be found together they are two very different things, they are not synonyms for the same thing. I suspect the OP simply sees being submissive as being humiliating and doesn't have the intellectual capacity to separate the two. Pleasing to see that they are eager to learn.

 

One of my girlfriends is a dominatrix in her BDSM world. (No, she does not do this to me. We are just fuck buddies) She has men who come to her to be submissive. Others come for the humiliation that she does to them. There is a difference. She has told me that for those who come to be humiliated she tears them down mentally. Deep enough that some of them actually end up sobbing and crying before she brings them back. These men, most quite successful, just get off being on the other side of where they are most of the time mentally.

 

Even as a cuckold, my wife doesn't necessarily "humiliate" me. I'd be lying though if I said I don't feel a bit of humiliation when she has sex with her boyfriend.
I'm not exactly "small" at 7"c, but by comparison, her boyfriend is 8.5"c and really THICK, so he's considerably larger than me.
I always get to "reclaim" my wife after she's been with her boyfriend, but sometimes I can't help but wonder if she can even feel me inside her after she's just enjoyed his big dick.
I didn't become a cuckold due to "size issues or stamina (there were other determining factors), but I gotta say, I definitely get off on knowing my wife also fucks another guy who has a much bigger cock than mine

 

Oh I like the way you explained that. It’s a perfect fit for me. When Mistress humiliates me it really jolts me - in a good way.

 

I get with a guy occas. and it turns me on to be humiliated. He likes to tell me what to do and he really gets into talking dirty to me. The nastier the better. Now that's fun for me.

 

I doubt that I could answer or explain any better than so many others already have. For some people, it is such a delicious feeling, it's difficult to imagine getting enough.
as I said, others have answered so well. I think it depends what flavor of humiliation we're talking about here. on that note, maybe you could reply back? and be more specific about what you interpret humiliation to be. maybe then, I could say more. I feel like I crawled out on a creeky limb here. I enjoyed your post, your question.
Cheers!

 

As a man, losing control. Not having power. Being exposed. There's a lot of similarity for a woman but it's clearly different. I was at a swingers party a few years ago and there was a woman who had two men with her. Each nude (she didn't have a whole lot on either) with their balls in a cage and cock rings on. One was gagged. Maybe the other too, I don't recall. Anyway, she was leading them around by their erections and if she stopped to chat with someone or grab an appetizer or a drink, she would ask the person beside her to hold her man. By his cock. I did it once. The look on their faces being on display and held like that was priceless. Sometimes she had them hold each other. Simple humiliation but all parties were williing and I found it to be a huge turn on to watch.

 

I enjoy my gf having sex with other men. It’s not the humiliation which isn’t really involved by I I do enjoy the loss of control. Whether I’m there or not. As he’s about to enter her is exquisite. He’s about to fuck her the girl I love and there is nothing I can do to stop him. That moment of penetration as he takes what is mine….

 

I loved watching my girlfriend have sex with other men. The thing about it was we only had 3 different guys we had mfm threesomes with. we played more with other couples. Two were smaller than me, The one guy a little bigger than me, was the one I liked watching her with, she got into it and loved it. I was more humiliated when a couple I played with. started seeing other guys. They had family members and friends suspicious of our meeting, and wanted to slow down a bit.

 

I'm not sure I would consider it humiliation, but the ability and the willingness to be a sub is a way to mentally give yourself totally to your partner. For example, I have several partners, all with different erotic tastes. One in particular enjoys seeing/watching me in a sub role with another male. And it is after all the nastiness happens when we are alone, we talk about what happened, how it felt, what runs though our minds while it is all happening.... I see this woman more often than my other partners (mostly because of simple proximity). She get totally excited when she discovers that I have brought her a cum-filled (as she calls it) boi pussy. The conversation brings both of us to a peak that is a catalyst for great sex - usually with me in a sub role. Much enjoyed!