Hubby needs dildo foreplay advice

Sooo, I just bought a lifelike dildo to give my wife a little foreplay variety, but I would love some advice from experienced ladies or men who’ve used them on their wives.
I usually offer her an oral orgasm first. Lately I’ve tried more g-spot fingering with some success, although it takes a while. My thoughts are to do this first before introducing the dildo. Sound right?
Then as to the best use of the dildo, short shallow strokes vs deep vs mixing it up? Wife laying face down vs up?
Any advice much appreciated.

 

Congrats on your new purchase!

A dildo gives you more flexibility than your penis. It doesn’t have to be used with the same technique all the time, what matters is that you both have fun.

Sex doesn’t need to be like a check list to follow the same way also. You can do oral before or after using the dildo. Or, how about doing both at the same time!

Imagination, creativity, variety, exploring are what will expand your knowledge of your wife’s body. When fingering or using the dildo.
Try slow, no kidding. Once I did it slow with my fwb we were hooked on that, she wanted me to go slow after that.

Move the dildo in different ways.
Make it circle the vagina.
Move it up and down as if trying to stretch the opening vertically.
Rub just the sides, or just the bottom.
Go in at different angles.
Stay deep.
Slide in and out doing long slides.
Stay shallow and focus on the G-spot.
Try her cervix.
If she likes the dildo I guarantee she will love some of those ideas, dislike some, meh on others.
And maybe try anal.

Trying different things other than the usual in and out and looking for her G-spot allowed me to discover other ways to make my friend orgasm, her vagina was a treasure of sensitive spots that made me feel like a sex hero. So my thinking is that your wife probably has more than just one way to receive pleasure. Some that she doesn’t know yet.
I met more than three, but three particular women didn’t know they could orgasm from their breasts until I met them. Their age at the time, 35, 37 and 30, and it was not that they had no sex before. Food for thought.

Good luck, and great fun to you.

 

My wife and I play with dildo's and dong's on each other and my wife really enjoys when I'm the top (69) and work a dildo inside her while licking her clit. I work it all around and in, pull out and massage her clit with it, tongue her more while working it slowly back in until I get all 6" in her as her hips are beginning to buck I drive the dildo deep in her vagina as well as driving my cock deep into her mouth. She really enjoy the dildo and my tongue at the same time while sucking my cock, we actually did this just yesterday morning and she had an amazing orgasm that according to her was mind blowing.

 

I cant really add to Andys comprehensive list but well done for thinking out of the box .Many toys can be used effectively as couples toys. I can recommend the use of a glass dildo as placed in the fridge or a shortish duration in the freezer. For the latter just check for freeze burns before you use it . This will bring an element of temperature play and can be used on other parts of the body as well . Iced water can be used in conjunction with the dido as well .

 

A couple of things to add to this thread. First is lube. Use plenty of lube. Water based is best as some dildoes can be damaged by silicone lube. Make sure the whole thing is lubricated before insertion. Inserting it dry can injure the inside of her pussy as dildoes are usually larger and stiffer than an erection. Second is having a vibrator in it. Especially one that you can control the rate of the vibrations. Placing the end on her clit and constantly changing the frequency should send her into ecstasy in short order. Then insertion into the vagina while continuing to alter the vibrations and sucking her clit will probably have her spasming all over the bed. She may end up squirting from all of the stimulation. I suspect when your done she will be sleeping very soundly until morning.