How to tell someone you are not ready for sex?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by cupy, Aug 14, 2013.

  1. cupy

    cupy Member

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    I went out with this guy and we talk and flirt a lot, the other day he asked me if I want to have sex with him , I said yes but now I'm not sure if I want to have sex with him and I dont want feel regret . I really like him a lot and I just dont want him as fuck friend he doesn't wanna be in a relationship with me if i take sex of the equation.

    Of course it was my fault that I said yes I want to and now I don't know how to tell this guy i'm just not ready?
     
  2. RainyDayHype

    RainyDayHype flower power Lifetime Supporter

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    Just be honest and tell him you're not ready. He needs to respect that. If he doesn't then he's probably a douche bag.
     
  3. TAZER-69

    TAZER-69 Listen To Your Heart! Lifetime Supporter

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    This ^^^^^ it is just that easy.
     
  4. Bond007

    Bond007 Member

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    Well, if he doesn't want a relationship and you see him more than that, don't engage. It won't work. Just be honest with him. You have nothing to lose. The only loss is his.
     
  5. SpacemanSpiff

    SpacemanSpiff Visitor

    just say no

    then if he tries anything ...scream rape...he'll get the picture real quick
     
  6. Michael Phelps

    Michael Phelps Am I being detained?

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    It's actually his fault for being stupid.
     
  7. cupy

    cupy Member

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    I can tell him that I'm not ready but what if he says to me "why I want to have sex with him" I know it was stupid to say that I want have sex with him..
     
  8. crazysexfreak

    crazysexfreak Guest

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    its as simple as that, just say no, and you thought otherwise then, people do change their minds, and tell him your expectations since you obviously know his
     
  9. kokujin

    kokujin Senior Member

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    tell them. lol.
     
  10. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    Could it have been him flirting?

    You could say "one day, maybe, if you are worthy." Just for the reaction. Be sure to smile.

    Then admit that you honestly aren't there, that you don't want to simply hook up.
     

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