How to tell my wife that I really want to have a MFM experience with her?

Alright. For over a year now, my wife and I have talked about how hot and fun it would be to bring another guy into the bedroom. This fantasy gets brought up a lot during sex from her and from me. Sometimes she initiates the convo during sex and sometimes I do.

This is something that I honestly want to do, but we never actually talk about it when we aren’t having sex. I’ve thrown subtle hints out there, but I don’t really get anything in return. Just from knowing her, she probably feels guilty about even wanting to do something like this, because it is not in the norm.

Do I just lay it out and tell her I 100% want to do this and tell her if she really wants to do it too, that she will need to initiate the conversation with me when she’s ready? I definitely don’t want to be pushy and don’t want to make her do something she isn’t totally comfortable with.

 

It sounds to me she already loves the fantasy. Maybe she indeed feels guilty or ashamed when she's not aroused.
Have you tried to ask her while having sex? Something like 'what do you think about it if we make it real and find you some nice big cock'?

If she reacts in a negative way you can always claim it was part of the fantasy

Another thing is that when you're about to start having sex and she's hot you propose to her to find a guy online. Just for fun

 

I pretty much agree with the above.
lay it all out there and let her know you really want it too, then have a good talk about it and what you both expect from it and make sure the other guy is on the same page as you are about what is going to happen

 

When we are having sex, I have mentioned that we need to get another real cock in here and she will typically moan in agreeance or pretty much cum instantly the more I talked about it. Obviously she is into the idea during sex.

Now that I give it more thought, there was actually one time when we weren’t aroused and talked about having sex in the same room with another couple we know. We used to play stripping games together, but nothing ever came of it. I’m sort of glad it didn’t, because their relationship is kind of rocky to begin with.


I do like the idea of actually looking at swinger sites when I know she is aroused, so I may try that one next time. We sometimes watch MFM porn together and I know she does it when she is alone as well.

I just need to get the idea out of her that it is wrong to be doing something like this. I decided I’m just going to bring it up tonight and see what happens. Thanks for the advice and I will update with how it went

 

Sounds like you are on the right track. My girlfriend was all for it, But was still close to 2 years before it happened. We had a few soft swing with another couple, but she admitted he didn't appeal to her. I also had help from her girlfriends, who told her about some of their experiences. Plus the fact we had agreed to an open relationship, and she knew I was seeing other people, since we had agreed to tell each other about anybody we seen.

 

My wife and I followed the same pattern you've described . I'd brought it up during sex and while using a vibrator on her while she was blowing me several times . Every time I brought it up we had some of our best sex and she experienced shuddering orgasms so that was a pretty good sign that she might enjoy it .

On one occasion while out with friends for a night of partying I took a back road shortcut that I wasn't really familiar with ( turned into a dirt road ) . At some point I decided to park the car and we all began to fool around . From the sounds from the back seat I knew what they were up to . Next thing I know my wife has pulled my pants down and started sucking me . I also removed her pants and began fingering her very wet pussy . This went on for some time and she had several orgasms while sucking me and while not making too much noise it was obvious inside the car what was happening . Just the idea of others being right there was enough to really set her off .

As it turned out this was the couple we ended up having numerous 4somes and 3somes with for a number of years .

Sorry to be so long winded but the point is you may be on the right track.....