I've been married now for about 3 years. Very happy, married a great girl. But I'm more sexually adventours than she is and really want to have a threesome. I've told her so, but she just thinks I'm being silly. She has a very cute friend that I think would be into it, but I don't want to ruin that friendship for her. I know it's somewhat selfish of me to want this, but I feel like I never get to live out my fantascies and don't want to become so frustrated that I resent her and our sex life. My question: Is it possible to take a married women into such a thing? How?
This is why every woman I meet knows up front what I want/expect. I have been in relationships before where I was unsatisfied. Some women think it's creepy, but then they werent the right girl for me anyway. My girl will say "cool, I'm ready".
Honestly, unless your wife is bi, you're gonna be hard pressed to sell this one. The key here is not to keep pushing the issue. Bring it up, discuss it, make some dirty comments in the heat of passion in bed, etc. But if you keep hitting her over the head with it, you'll never get what you're looking for. The trick is to marry a woman who's bi already - I got lucky on that tip
i am a married woman and i have done the whole 3some and 4some thing with great success. i am however very open about being a bisexual so if your wife is not it might be kinda difficult. offer a trade she goes along with the fmf scenario if you'll go along with a mfm. if you make the fmf all about you and the mfm all about her than she wouldn't have to do anything with the girl and you wouldn't have to do anything with the guy)
I've been married 4 years now and am lucky, I knew my wife to be was kinda on the fence leaning towards being Bi when I met her and sure enough here we are getting ready for our first ffm 3some. What it takes is alot of OPEN talks about sex. No inhibitions, no secret fantasies, and knowing when to shut up. Guys can blast all day about crazy sex things you want to do, if you make so much noise you won't hear what she is saying and in turn will scare her away. It's like coaxing a mouse of its hole, make sure she feels safe, welcomed, and listened to. Tell her you need to know everything about what she wants, even the tiniest fantasies she's had before (even ones that were only a glimpse of thought). Tell her nothing is off limits and you're there just to hear what she has to say. Make it about her, because without her you're just a guy looking to fullfill your needs. Patience is key, know what you've hit the "limit" of exploratory talk for the night and give it a few days (or weeks) rest then slowly bring it up again and see if more comes out, if you force it to grow too fast it'll wither and die, I can't stress this enough, especially if she's a quiet girl like you were hinting at. Eventually if she's getting into it tell her she should do some reading maybe (we bought a book called Threesomes: for couples who want to know more, it's a great book and will get her into it). Hopefully some of that helps, don't rush life or it'll fall back on you.
Yeah, man...she's either into the idea or she's not. You can't "trick" her into doing it or make it all about you. It's her sex life, too.
No tricks, she'll do it or she wont. But don't keep going on about it, or you may not be having any sex at all.
If she is not into it, there is very little you can do about it. Honestly, you should have discussed this before you got married.
I'd forget it - if she hasn't jumped at it immediately you're on to a loser. Now, just to make things worse - a woman I was living with decided she would set it up herself as she was curious about lesbianism. We went for dinner with a bi-sexual friend of hers, stayed late. They started playing footsy, I started getting horny, we all laughed and ended up in bed. Her friend gave her oral while I took her friend from behind - it was heaven for me, an experience for her: and we never did it again.
