I know there are a couple of threads about this topic but im curious as to what others think about either when ur masturbating or having sex. Personally im a big fan of being tieds up, although my bf isnt too keen, i think he thinks im a bit fragile but the rush of not being in control is such a turn on, and i am slowly manipulating my guy to want to be tied up, i want to give him the biggest rush yet he isnt too enthused at the moment.
This book is a good place to start. If he's a little nervous that's alright - he should be. You need to know how and where to tie folks or bad things happen like nerve damage. Try things out as being lighthearted and fun as your top is learning what their doing with the rope. Save the intense scenes once you've got enough savvy to pull it off. Use lots of smaller ropes instead of one huge one. If you're using the same rope for restraints and harnesses it's gonna suck ass when the bottom says 'my hand is tingling' and you gotta take the whole thing apart just to undo the hand.
yeah but at the same time i can not force him!!!!! wehave been together 8 months, iv compromised by having anal, now it should be his turn dammit!!!llol
http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guid...f=sr_1_11/102-2062613-4415347?ie=UTF8&s=books is good too, for all that it has a tiny section bdsm and is more of a generalist book on dicussing fantasies. Talk to him about why it's such a turn on for you. Start small, something as little as having your wrists held down or a silk scarf wrapped aroudn your wrists (and not necessarily tied, just wrapped enough that you can hold your hands in place with it). Hell, offer to tie him up too if he's worried about it being too unbalanced, about having to be in control all the time.
I ment to add this to my first post but I was in a rush. If you get the book, leave it in the bathroom before he goes in for his 'man time' or something like that as a hint. Maybe if he sees how truely sexy rope is, he might start to warm up to the idea.
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