so me and my wife trade off being on top and normally every thing is very sensual and romantic but once in a while when she's the top she will be very agressive calling me cruel names bitting/hitting me make me lick her feet i get that its the bdsm fetish but i really dont like it AT ALL and she is clearly very happy being sensual as well so what can i say or do to let her know how i feel thank you
Stop and No. That complicated and that simple. If it is not consensual then it is a problem. You are not obligated to allow it to happen or continue.
why would you let her do it a second time if you didn't enjoy the first time..... I always say....sexual habits should be ALL on the table before you get married.. good luck dude....sounds like a marriage burner to me
Agree with Heat. Communication is essential. If talking about it doesn't fix the problem, here are some links World-wide directory of domestic abuse resources: www.hotpeachpages.net For US & Canada Domestic/Family Violence National Domestic Violence Hotline 24 hour hotline phone: 800.799.SAFE (800.799.7233) www.thehotline.org who they help: victims, survivors, family, parents, friends, offenders, community leaders. A resource to anyone who may have concerns about relationship being unhealthy or abusive, and it does not matter whether they are dating or married, living together or not.
Just be honest with her. Tell her you don't like it and want her to stop. If she still does it then you will need to have an entirely different kind of conversation.
I picked PrincessPeach because i like mario games and i would think with a user like that it would be obvious that im a girl
I think the others assumed you were a he as soon as you said wife. What can i tell you either let your girl do the bdsm thing on you, or someone else
In socially aware countries, gay folks have the right to get all married and stuff, VG. Domestic abuse in LGBTQ relationships is just as prosecutable as male/female or female/male abuse. Tell her that the kink isn't yours, you don't want to play and to stop, immediately. Be serious about it, and hopefully, calm. If it happens again, pick up the phone.
