how to flirt with a guy too nice?

Can be difficult.How would you flirt with a guy that is too nice,and can't take a hint.
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Try using this thing that we refer to here as "talking".

 

I agree with Haid. Just talk if he can't take hint let it be know out right.

 

ask him if he wants to go somewhere and make out

 

Hahaha, quote of the day by far!!

 

actually, it's not silly. i pretty much had to tell my date (and future husband) that we were "going to have sex right here and now." it's not a joke, it's not a lie. he really needed me to be that straight with him.

 

I used to be really stupid when I was young and single. If a girl liked me she pretty much had to jump on me and start kissing me before I got the hint that she liked me.

 

Just start a conversation and then ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. Always make eye contact, smile a lot, talk to him a lot, wear something hot (if you got it, flaunt it. i know i do), and just be yourself. And making the first move helps also.

 

Hey people, sorry to bump an old thread, I found this topic through Google.

My question is.. does it really pay off to so up front? You guys talk about just getting straight to the point, do guys really like that?

There's this guy and I don't know how to flirt to save my life

 

YESo

 

haha!

I would say - yes, most guys do like an upfront girl . . . however, it's ok to keep a little mystery. You don't want to lay it ALL out on the line right away.

Being subtle is good - but some girls are just too damn subtle. They need to step it up a notch (but that doesn't mean going out in hooker boots and a tube top and grabbing him by the crotch . . . who knows though? he might like that . . . but if you are looking for a deeper relationship I wouldn't suggest it)

For girls that have a hard time flirting, the reasoning behind it is usually one of two things, if not both: 1) Timidity - some girls are simply to shy to put themselves out there. Nothing wrong with this. We can't ALL be extroverts. 2) Low self-esteem - many girls have a hard time putting themselves out there/flirting because they do not think very high of themselves either physically or mentally - quite often both, but I've found physical low self-esteem is much more common.

So, then the next question is - how does one get past this?
One good way, when you are with the guy you like/want to flirt with . . . don't just focus on how much you like him and want him to like you. Most "Crushes" don't go beyond this and that is why they are just crush's. People who like someone else purely because of their looks are going to be sorely dissapointed. If you like a guy OBVIOUSLY you think he's attractive, so don't focus on that.

Find out who he IS - ask him what he enjoys, what he thinks about things (talk about philosophy, language, music, movies, culture, politics [if that's your thing, not really the best conversation topic for people who are really opinionated though], spirituality, etc.]

I cringe when people say, "We have nothing to talk about. We have nothing in common."

First off, WHY ARE YOU INTERESTED IN THE PERSON IF YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON!???!! Second, there is ALWAYS something to talk about. ALWAYS. Even if you aren't a good conversationalist - the key is just keep asking questions. And if he asks you a question, don't be afraid to answer it with more than one sentence.


As far as the low self esteem thing goes, understand that you ARE beautiful. We are all unique, beautiful creatures. Think about the complexity of your body, your mind, your spirit. Focus on what you DO look about yourself (physically, intellectually, etc.) and emphasize that.

Don't worry about what he will think is "sexy" - if you find yourself sexy and confident, even if it's just in something small (like, "oh I play the piano and I think that's kind of cool" or "I've always liked my hands" - - small things) he will see that. and if he's a halfway decent guy and not a douchebag, he will appreciate this.

A lot of bigger girls think they can never get guys (or girls) and they pout about it. I have LOTS of BIG girlfriends who are SO confident and passionate about life. Some aren't even that confident, but they have a passion for what they do and who they love and it SHOWS! And, whether they are in serious relationships or not, they are happy. Many have no trouble finding dates.

Sorry for the long post - hope some of that helps. I've been through a lot of relationships (friendships, meeting people, life long relationships, etc.) - - I've traveled the world, I've met people of ALL shapes and sizes. There are A LOT of beautiful people out there - you just have to do a little digging, but trust me it's worth it

 

I'd say that anyone likes honesty. I'm naturally a brutally honest person.

Its almost as if you were going to go out with a bunch of friends and you put on this ugly shit green shirt that made you look like a beached whale wrapped up in baby turd...would you want to know honestly that the shirt didn't look good or would you wanna go out and have a shit-kicking good time looking like the turd?

Its the same with relationships...don't let the guy be that turd

 

i'm really not sure which answer you're advocating here..

 

Are you sure that's the problem?

I think I can take a hint, but if a girl flirts with me, I have a tendency to assume she is cockteasing or being manipulative. Whereas, I will take a girl seriously who either invites me to do something, or initiates physical intimacy.

 

This.

A lot of people just flirt by habit, I do it too sometimes, it just happens. It's just flirting, it doesn't mean jack, other that you're in a playful mood and someone's kinda attractive to you.

It often also means they're kinda attractive, but not THAT attractive, and you feel at ease fucking around because you don't expect, or want, anything to happen beyond flirting.

 

i have missed many hints over the years...a couple of them could have changed my life....so....do not hint...look him straight in the eye and say you like him a lot and to take you right there right now:devil:

 

+1

 

allright heres what you do, have him over, hang out a bit, try and drop him a hint. if that still doesnt work corner him so he can get away and start making out with him, if he still doesnt get the hint grab his hands and show them where to go hopefully he will figure it out

 

around his own penis, because that's all the action he's going to be getting at this point?

 

tell him he looks real cute, and mama wants to fuck that ass tonight. While you say that firmly hump his ass. When he looks back at you with his violated and fearful eyes, then you will know he is ready, to take him to California.