How to find out if someone is okay with gays?

Uh...I'm considering coming out (completely) and i've told a few of my friends. I've been really lucky that they have all been okay with me being gay. But I want to come out to my parents and is there any tips on how to figure out if they would be accepting of me or not? Help would be greatly appreciated! ^^

Thanks!

 

*edit* Eh, delete

 

um when i came out to my dad before i could i had to know how he would sit with it (to religious in my oppinion dad lives in the 1800s still) any way i found that a good way to see how they feel about gay people is just strick up the conversation by asking what they think about gay marriage things like that or what they would do or react if some one they knew was gay you'll found out in a short time how they would react

 

Hi

I still have not out come out to my parents at 32. how fucked is that. I dought that answers your question though. They know but they do not discuss it, but who cares they have there own problems.

All the best

 

My advice:

Tell them upfront that you are gay. Get it over with.

OR

Tell them that your friends are gay. Casually talk about the gay people you've met. "So-and-so is as gay as a goose!" or "Guy1 and Guy2/Girl1 and Girl2 were making out the other day, it was really interesting to watch." Carefully monitor their facial expressions and which Bible verses they quote at you.

 

Good advice on the gay marriage question. That's a pretty strong indicator of their potential reaction. Of course, some might just favor gay marriage but might not be too comfortable have a gay son. This is just something that comes over time, as most people--even the most progressive--aren't totally comfortable with it. But they try to adapt.

I wouldn't really pose the question "what would you think if I were gay" because that can raise suspicion.

 

You know one thing that you need to consider is that the truth always comes out in the end. Even when people like some parents have a massive amounts of denial. People know that truth deep down, even if they don't want to aknowledge it. A lot of people knew about me before I came out, and a lot of the straighter guys I had crushes on knew I had crushes on them. At least one of them has taken me up on it, which was fun for a while. However, I don't recommend to get your heat broken as bad as I did.

 

its really quite difficult to know how your parents will rwact to YOU com9ing out to them

yes ok, i would always strike up conversation with my parents, in a very smooth and vague way which would eventually lead onto the subject and to be honest, both of them seemed very anti-gay

but when i came out because i couldnt satnd it any more, my mum was really acceptiing in a styrange way, and my dad was kinda in denail, keeping onm saying that iot was probably a phase, but he would talk about it saying (and i quote)

"we all make our little jokes, but we dont judge them on things like that"

which i found really surprising because i expected him to be quiote taken back by it.

i guess it depends on the type of relationship you have with your patents, as i had a quite strong one with both of them, i guess they looked past it all and saw me, not my sexuality.

(p.s. sorry if its a bit unreadable, i've had copious amounts of alcohol to drink tonight)