How to deal with controlling in laws...

So, I guess I should start by saying that my boyfriend is going through a custody battle with his soon to be ex wife for their son. I think it's really sad that it's come down to this, but she left him and the baby, signed the paperwork to give him full custody and has now changed her mind. They've been going to court for almost a year over this trying to get it straightened out. It's been a huge hassle and she's had almost a year to put in for an appeal. She managed to wait until the last possible day that the judge gave her to do something about it and she dropped a letter off at the courthouse. So it's set into motion.

He and I have talked about this several times (because I'm 6 months pregnant) and we agreed that regardless of what happens between us, that we would do what is best for our baby and forgo all the bullshit. It's a lot to put a child through and I would never want to deprive him of a relationship with his father. I already know by seeing him with his older son that he really is a great dad. His ex is just very vindictive and honestly a little unstable.

His step mom is very involved with his son and has helped out a lot through the divorce. She's always been nice just with a controlling nature, but she told me a few days ago that if we break up, not only will she kill me with her bare hands, but she will do everything in her power to make sure that he gets custody. She kinda laughed while saying it, but I think it is the probably the worst possible thing that she could have said to me. To prevent an argument I just told her that she didn't need to worry about that any time soon that we are happy. And she just told me I better keep it that way.

I wanna know how the hell this woman thinks that she has the right to say ANYTHING like this to me. I'm carrying this baby for god's sake! After that, I'm at the point where I want nothing to do with her. I don't even want my child around her. She's done a lot for us, but she has always been on the pushy side and she just went way too far.

Sorry for the rant, I talked to my man about it, but he just kinda laughed it off. I'm not laughing at all. Maybe, I'm overreacting, but I am so mad!

 

I guess this shoulda gone in family issues... sorry.

 

My in-laws have absolutely nothing to do with myy family. We went out of our way to try to please everyone for a while, then my wives parents turned around and stabbed me in the back repeatedly. They started spreading rumors, and talking about me to everyone that they knew, tried to convince my wife to leave me and take the kids......
We ran into some hard times, and they told my wife that her and the children could move in with them, but I wasn't welcome. I am not invited to any of their family get togethers or anything else. My wife finally told them that she doesn't want anything to do with them, and they are not part of her family anymore. We haven't had any communication with them for over a year and a half.
All of this because I'm not super military man like they are. I wasn't afraid to tell her militant career father what I thought of the military and the war ect. It's one of those situations where if you don't want to know, don't ask.
I guess what I am getting at, is that it's your family now. I heard many threats from my inlaws, and laughed in their face. I came to the realization that if my wifes father ever invites me hunting, I should respectfully decline. I am a cordial person, and if I do ever see them again, I will be polite. What you have to do is see the things you don't like about your parents, your in-laws, grandparents and everyone else, and change them. I see a lot of my own father in my self, and I am always aware of that, I do the absolute best that I can not to be like that. The one thing overall that any good parent wants for their child is for their child to have a better life than they had.