How to Come Out of the Closet

This post is only about women because I am a woman and that's what I have the most experience with, no offense to men.

How to decide if you can come out of the closet: I know there's a lot of pressure to come out of the closet, and honestly I do think people should come out of the closet if they can, because visibility helps LGBTQIA rights and because people who come out tend to feel better about themselves because they aren't hiding a great big secret. However, there are times when a person can't safely come out of the closet. I think those times are: When you are financially dependent on someone who might hurt you physically or emotionally if you came out, and/or might kick you out of the house. If that is NOT a situation that you are in, then I think you can come out of the closet. You might lose some friends, but they weren't your real friends anyway.

How to come out of the closet as a lesbian: You can begin this by bringing up a famous lesbian in conversation, such as "I heard Jodie Foster has a new girlfriend," and seeing how the person you're coming out to reacts. If they react positively, just come out and say, "I'm a lesbian." If they react negatively, try to find out why and put their fears to rest, and then come out. Do they think lesbians are sinners? Show them lesbian-accepting groups like the Metropolitan Community Church or Reform Judaism. Do they think lesbians live cold, lonely lives? Show them all the happily married lesbians out there. And so on.

How to come out of the closet as a bisexual woman: Bisexuality, particularly bisexual women, are fairly common in fictional media. You might for example bring up the fact that in a book you've been reading a woman was once dating a woman but is now dating a man, or vice-versa, and see how they react. Again, either come out immediately or put their fears to rest first. If they think all bisexuals are promiscuous, for example, tell them about some happily married or partnered bisexuals like Drew Barrymore and Angelina Jolie.

How to come out of the closet as a transgender woman: You can begin this by dressing and/or acting just a little bit more feminine than you usually do and seeing what kind of a response you get. Again, either come out immediately or put their fears to rest first. Show them successful, happy transgender women like Laverne Cox and Candis Cayne.

How to come out of the closet as an asexual woman: There are more and more articles about asexuality appearing in the news today. You might discuss one of them with them to see if they have a correct understanding of asexuality and what they think of it. Again, either come out immediately or put their fears to rest first. Talk about asexuals who either have happy romantic relationships or are happy without them.

 

Mmmm, that acronym seems to get longer each decade

And how do you know if either of them went back into the 'Promiscuity closet'

One like Brad Pitt, out on location, its not like he's not going to get the odd assistant or fan trying to hook up with him in secret.

And by now he'd know the difference between one thats going to try run to the media vs the ones that just want money vs one that just wants to get hot and heavy. Jolie just assumes thats going to happen anyway, puts on the same kind of act other wives will, but never really knows

And Jolie back in the day running around with Bai, it was in front of eveyones face and yet still many didnt clue in, and its not like she's really going to give that up.

They have a bunch of kids, put on the act for the kids, put on the act for the public.

But you or anyone else really has no clue what the real deal with their marriage is, and there may still be parts to it they dont know about each other.

 

Frankly, why would anyone care or actually be interested in my sexual orientation?

If they want to get sexual with me, they'll find this out soon enough.

If they want to gossip about it, there is no need to encourage them...

Isn't it sweet to think that each and everyone of us matters so much to the rest of the world that we should be developing intricate schemes about how to let them know that if something is supposedly right for Angelina Jolie and Drew Barrymore it should be fine for the Wallmart America, too!

Sweet...

KD

 

Sorry Did Not Read, Fell Asleep At The First Line...



Cheers Glen.

 

Try the doorknob

 

Can you swing a sack of doorknobs?
You gotta supply your own knobs.

 

I thought you were knob free?