How to Bulldoze Rejection without looking Lame

What's the best way to handle rejection from a girl just in case it happens. If a guy who knows what he's doing gets rejected, he shouldn't actually be embarrassed. You'd only feel embarrassed if you felt you didn't know what you were doing when making the move.. if you felt like there was something you didn't account, etc. But there will always be things you can't account for such as whether she has a boyfriend or not, and you may then all of a sudden realise that everything you thought was flirting the whole time was in fact miss-read. You would then feel like an complete tool. You can't really ask her whether she has a bf or not, without making it look like your lame way of saying 'oh ya, I plan on making a move on you'.

If she knows that you will get all embarrassed if she turns you down, then that's enough to make her turn you down. If handle the rejection without looking lame OR if you can even make her feel awkward when she turns you down, then you're still in the game. Should I try and make it look like she is the one with the problem, by saying "don't be shy" ect. It doesn't matter if you're not smooth.. just as long as you look like an arrogant jerk going after what he want. She should have more respect for you if you are going after what she knows you want anyway.

So let me know of any tips you may have on handling rejection without looking lame & any awkward/interesting situations you have got into yourself????? Thanks

 

I mastered handling rejection in middle school and early high school.

First piece of advice, don't take it personally and give yourself props for trying to take an opportunity.

 

looking lame is more favorable than acting like a bulldozer

who exactly are you worried about?...the girl?....dude...if she rejects you its a huge mistake to give a flying fuck about what she thinks,lame or otherwise


get new friends...

 

Make a move, if denied, Masterbate later. Repeat as necessary.

 

If you're rejected, be gracious and forget about it. "Punishing" a girl for not being interested by trying to make her feel awkward or otherwise bad might make you feel better in the moment, but it's a shitty way to be and will poison your attitude toward women. Not only that, but a really good way to meet girls is to be friends with girls who turn you down... they know you're looking, and they know you're a great guy (because you weren't a dick to them and they feel good hanging around with you) so they recommend you to their friends.

 

The chances of that are pretty slim

 

Why?

 

A true man shouldn't have to rely on that alone as one of his tactics to getting a girl. I like to ask girls out directly.. not to be dependent through others

 

i am going to guess that the ''asking out'' will be the initial contact


which is a huge mistake

 

Absolutely not! Why would you think that? I may come across as head strong on hipforums but I have more sense then that

 

humor is a good way to cover embarrasement

 

It's not "dependency". It's normal social dynamics.

 

And why are you embarrassed?

 

True Men are bullshit the television uses to sell deodorant. Salts on the money; it's normal social behaviour.

 

Rejection is part and parcel of life, love and relationships. I don't think the answer is to worry about how to handle it, rather to learn to accept it as part of life. Every situation and every person is different and rejection can cause a range of responses from mild disappointment to acute embarassment and pain.

"Faint heart never won fair maiden." is one of my boyfriend's favourite sayings.

The risk of rejection is simply one of the many risks you take if you want to be out there and living your life. I'm no expert in relationships but I know about rejection. It's painful and it hurts but you get over it and move on.

 

A"true man" acts like a true, healthy, functioning adult, not some Brawny Man charicature. Which is to say he takes rejection with grace and doesn't "bulldoze" through it, pressuring them into a relationship they don't want.

 

No no no.. I always see people write that a girl may reject you first as a test to see whether or not you'll take it. As a matter of fact, because you don't take 'no' for an answer might impress her. True men try not to take no for an answer. You're obviously female, and females don't know what they want sometimes and have to be shown.

I am surprised at the responses by people to this thread

 

:rofl: gotta be trolling.

 

I worked at mcdonalds and this hottie was there. I was like "you want fries with that?"

She was like nahh.

So I gave that bitch some fries. Bitches want fries bro. They just gotta be taught they want it. THATS what a REAL man does.

 

Lame Bulldozer ?

You could try getting some Respect.
Women are people too, not something to be conned into copulating.

Ask the question, get the answer. Move on either way.