How precious are your sex organs to you?

Do you feel that your pussy or dick must wait for marriage before you use them or do you feel that you can use them at your will whit whom ever you want as long as no one gets hurt.

 

This has been different for me at different times in my life. I grew up in a very conservative, religious family (the loving and supportive kind, not the whack you with a bible kind) and sincerely believed that sex should wait for marriage. As a result, I waited until I got married. It isn't the decision I'd make today, but that was a choice that was true to who I was at the time.
When that marriage ended after 10 years, I had already changed my views quite a bit and suddenly had to come up with a set of rules for this kind of thing. I settled on the idea that if I know and like someone well enough that I'm comfortable having them become a permanent part of me, then it's a green light. To me, sex is deeply personal (and I like it that way) to the point where for better or for worse the women I've been with are etched into my being. In some cases, that's been ok with me. In some others, less so. But speaking strictly for myself, that's how it works and that's what I based my sexual decisions on. Today I'm happily married (monogamously) and don't have to make these choices anymore, which is absolutely fine with me. This one's been etching herself into my being for 15 years, and I couldn't be happier about it.

 

Great comment. I was raised in a Catholic family and my mom said you can't even date till you graduate college. She said that when I was 14 years old. She would have shit if I was truthful and told her I was sucking a guy's dick already for 1 or 2 years and then my first piece of ass from a girl was when I was 18. To me sex organs are meant to be used as long as no one gets hurt in any way. But I truly respect those that follow the rules taught to them by others.

 

I think rules taught by others are an acceptable placeholder for the rules you'll eventually teach yourself when you're ready, as long as those early rules don't do damage. Some of the guidance I got from adults when I was young (not family, but people in authority over me) definitely did do damage that I'm still repairing today. I'm glad to be following my own compass now.

 

Yes, definitely!

Simon

 

I answered that question a LONG time ago.