how obsessed are you?

...well, try going 65 YEARS without any sort of a relationship with ANY man, such as your humble writer!

You, of course, have read of my own long "solo" journey; for me, two weeks without being with another guy is like being only a second or two!

A number of times (I am the world's biggest insomniac) I will have a dream that is QUITE stimulating, and, when I wake up, it is obvious that not only the dream was "interesting", but, also, something that caused me need to "release".

I still hold great promise for you, my friend; you obviously have a great deal to offer another man; you've got a wonderful sense of humor, great knowledge of history, and, most important, have much in the way of sincerity and honesty.

As for me, well, in my situation, "self stimulation" will forver be all that i can garner; hey, at least it's something....yeah, it DOES get QUITE frustrating, but it's SOMETHING.

To any gay/bi guy who is fortunate enough to have a close relationship with another like-minded fellow, all I can saay is you are VERY lucky, and NEVER take for granted what you have.....

 

Where I live tends to be the factor in my sex life....feast or famine.

And famine is pretty much the norm when I'm at home on an island with a small community, so I make trips away to a mainland town/city every so often to deal with the urge.

And most winters now I'm heading for either India or New Zealand...the former where 'uncles' are in demand by many many sexy guys, or the latter where I have a camper van and can go on tour hosting

Ideally I know I'm happy if I'm get three sessions a week but am programmed to famine for periods and then feast ...I met six guys in one day in Dundee 9 days ago ....and two had huge cocks!

Regular would be better, but life is always a compromise isn't it?

As to the urge ....yeah I'm always interested and when I'm not getting sex then I'm dropping in on xhamster....... and cross checking for any tourists ..haha

Simon

 

I suppose I am obsessed, I think about it a lot which leads to writing memories. About every other day solo, maybe twice a week for a "shared" experience(s).
Not much compared to the past, when I was married and very active. My wife was very much the instigator of threesomes and other erotic pursuits.

 

.......being a card-carrying insomniac, sometimes I go a day or two without the urge for some "solo" stmulation.

Then, out of the blue, the urge will come on quite strong, and then I might "solo" several times in one evening.

With me, I know the "urge" is always there, just beneath the surface; it's just that lack of sleep can really knock you for a loop!

Guess I just "go with the flow".........

 

Lack of sleep is a killer…..physically and mentally. Been struggling for years.

 

I'm right there with you, my friend....believe me, it ain't a walk in the park, by any means.

Lately, I've been napping an hour or two in the early afternoons, which gives me somewhat of a "boos".

I stay up to at least 3AM, either on the 'net, watching a dvd, or reading, trying to "wind down" so i can at least try to sleep.

When I was caregiver to my mother (who passed away at 99 six years ago) I slept with one eye open every night.

After she passed, I thought, gradually, I'd begin to sleep well.

No dice.

Oh, well.

As far as "urges" for the only "action I get ("solo") I range from really feeling the need several times a day, or just feeling, "Nah, too tired", and see what happens later.

Just gotta take it one day at a time, I guess........wishing you luck in your own "battle" with insomnia.....

 

At 65 I'm still ready and willing for sex all the time. I have a difficult time going more than a couple of days without a release, whether self administered or with a playmate. For the past several years it's been exclusively with other guys in the same fix as myself. Not often enough due to the need to be discreet. I'd love to find a regular female FWB but haven't found one in my age group that I'm interested in yet. And not being a rockstar the younger hot ones aren't swooning at my door. Guys for some reason seem to love my body and say I'm hot. And I've found the sex to be outstanding. So, who am I to disagree with them, lol.

 

Well, you obviously have SOMETHING that other men like, so, you've got THAT much going for you!

IMHO, I always thought that, all too often older gay/bi men often get overlooked in favor of the younger "studs".

I truly believe that many older guys have a VERY strong sex appeal to other gay/bi men that should be more in the "spotlight".

Me, well, I'll be honest......though I AM pretty well endowed, looks-wise, the best I could manage is "mediocre" at best....oh, well!

 

Thanks. My problem is not staying asleep. Bed by 10-11 and fall asleep. Wake up anywhere from 1-3 am. I’m toast for the day.

 

I hear you loud and clear, my friend.

By 1PM, I'm already flagging, and then take a snooze for a couple of hours.

Later in the evening, I feeling worn out again; however, I keep busy.

By 1AM, I'm either on the 'net or watching a dvd.

2-3 AM I'm in bed, reading, till 3-3:30, Then I TRY to get some shuteye.

Usually, I'm up again by 5:30-6; maybe visit the "facilities" and then back to bed, where, I sleep, on and off, till about 9:30 or 10.

Back in the day, I could sleep anywhere and slept WELL.

Those days are LONG gone.

I won't try any over-the-counter sleep remedies because I do not want to get dependent ; no way.

Well, what can ya do; as per my "persona", I just try to cope as best I can (good thing I have dozens of dvds and hundreds of books).......

 

I masturbate every single day. Sometimes twice or three times if I can sneak it in. Sex with another person 3 to 5 times a week. Think about sex every 36 seconds.

 

Melatonin and it works with no side effects and it's non narcotic.

 

Me, well, I'll be honest......though I AM pretty well endowed, looks-wise, the best I could manage is "mediocre" at best....oh, well!
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The only thing that guys are interested in is the "pretty well endowed" part. I'm not going to win any beauty contest in this life time. But, what I have between my legs and, right around back of that, is what they really want. Being smaller and still pretty tight I guess adds to the package. Just flaunt what you've got.

 

I connected with my man 13 years ago during my previous marriage as we were both deprived of oral satisfaction that we both willingly provided each other. We each acquired an addition for each other's cocks and cum as things eventually expanded into three-some's and at times four-some's with each of our wives. A fabulous journey it has been for sure.

 

I take care of myself at least twice per day, three if I don’t get laid

 

I don't know that I'm obsessed with having sex as I don't currently live with someone who wants my sex.
I think about it many times a day, and, usually, at night, end up watching porn on my device.
Sometimes, I go for a couple days without solo experiences, but mostly I do something almost every night, and sometimes early in the morning before work. I don't think she even notices.