how long can you abstain??

we live in different countries with my boy and gonna see each other in 7 months (3 have already passed). i am sure he s faithful to me, but thats a pretty damn long time and i can imagine how he feels about not having sex.

how long could u abstain for ur love??

 

for mine? forever. it's easy.

 

Like KC said, forever.

 

such devoted females!!
waiting what men will say.

 

Thats real love/respect . If youve been through failed relationships where youve loved someone im pretty sure you can understand the worth of abstaining. Sex is always better with someone you care deeply about and to let it go to waste over a one night stand or just to satisfy a petty desire isn't important. Me personally though. I couldnt see myself being in a long distance relationship like that cause for me i like to grow attached to the one i love and see them and think about them everyday. It would be too painful and distracting to not have steady contact with them.

 

i agree, why dont one of you move if your love is that strong? and im not even talking about sexual reasons- i dont understand how you can go a total of 10 MONTHS without seeing eachother! i mean, i can barely go a few days without feeligns myself break down wondering how they are and if they are happy.

sounds like sex isnt really the big issue here.

but to answer your question, if they are devoted and TRULY in love, you have nothing to worry about.

 

As long as it takes.. I don't mind waiting when it's something (or actually someone) worth waiting.

 

well, to be honest. i don't want anyone else. i just don't.

 

I could wait forever too. I don't even have to think about waiting, I can just wait.

 

I've gone 18 years and 2 weeks and I can happily continue until the day I die.

 

I've never had sex, so thats like eternity.

 

haha, yeah man i hear ya. for my girlfriend (that i havent slept with yet) i would wait until shes ready, really. no need to rush things.

 

Almost 42yrs and still counting

 

I wouldn't trust a guy because I've been in relationships where people cheat left and right. If my man was gone for so long I would be constantly thinking about him cheating on me. It would drive me crazy. All power to the original poster! You have to be strong!

 

not to be a dick or anything... but what are you waiting for? living the celibate life to me sounds... like you are missing out on a natural (and very fun) act between a man and a woman. religious, perhaps? or is it a thing "that just never happened"?

unless you are waiting for that special woman to come along, then i dont know what to tell ya

 

I'm not waiting for anything in particular. I'm not that bothered to be honest. No religion involved in this at all. Only ever had one girlfriend and that was when I was 12yo so it doesn't really count. Not even asked anyone out since then and I don't see that changing. "Natural" it may be to 99.9% of the world's population but I'm the 0.1% who doesn't feel that it's worth the hard work!

 

suggest that u should go and watch 40-year old virgin, the movie. at least u remind me of him.

 

Oh yeah I haven't heard that one for the last errrrr 5 minutes.
Worst thing is, apparantly there are a LOT of things about me
that mirror the guy in the film, my job for one, how I get to work
for another and the obvious one being a virgin although I'm told
that he did actually TRY - whereas I don't and I'm not going to.

 

lol ... youre right wolfie .. sometimes the whole relationship thing does seem like alot of hard work ... But hey thats cool that you've stayed a virgin that long, I have alot of respect for people who can have self control etc ...

As for myself, I was 24 when I finally gave myself up ... I thought the guy I was with was "the one" ... he told me forever, and blah blah blah *rolls eyes* .... if it werent for him I would still be a virgin right now, lol. So in a way I wish I could have sidestepped that relationship, but in another way I dont feel much regret ... because I waited a long time... hmm..

 

ok i have a private q. )) u didnt have sex with a girl, but have u ever done it yourself? or you even never cummed also??