How far would you go to save your relation

Question: How far would go to save your relationship with a spouse if you could not sexual perform for them? This is for men and women.
I will start with me. My wife and I are a senior couple, but we agreed along time ago(made a pact) inside our marriage that if either one could not sexual perform for the other that it is understood they could find someone to keep them sexual fulfilled. We believe all people need to be sexual happy and not frustrated.
So, my wife knows I would help her find someone and she would allow me to find another lady for this purpose only. A fuck buddy if you will. The rest of the marriage and relationship stays the same.
What say you? Men and women.
Sex is individual and healthy.

 

I think I'd do that for the woman I loved. Although there are so many options now, viagra and the sort, there's a shot you can get to create an erection even for people with no feeling in their privates.

I think I'd always want to be involved though, to take joy in her receiving pleasure.

 

Personally, I think that I'd feel bad using some random guy outside of my marriage as a substitute for my husband, if my husband was ill, or couldn't satisfy me sexually. I also wouldn't be able to get off with some other guy knowing my husband could never get off. It would feel emotionally bad to me, Idk. To each their own, but for me, sex shouldn't be a selfish thing that just gets you off. That's not why I got married.

 

I will not judge right or wrong. I respect people who use surrogates for sexual fulfillment.
I certainly understand the bonds of marriage. But,your love for each other and what you would do “for” each other is two entirely different things. Some couples start their marriage in open relationship. Others have too make tuff decisions later in life. I say sexual health is a huge part of life that gives individual happiness and mental clarity. I would choose to give my wife a means of this pleasure, even if I could not perform for her. I would do it to show my love for her. She would do it for me as well.
Love is really that deep for us.

 

The OP is written as a plan for the future. When that time comes, people will feel differently than they do about a (now) hypothetical.

The OP plan sounds like a good starting place for the future (real) discussion about what to do, but I don't think its fair to anyone to make a binding agreement until the actual situation has arisen.