How easily

do you forgive someone else?




I normally forgive/let go of something really easily
but tonight I'm really pissed off, and hurt, and frustrated
and it doesn't feel like it's gonna go away soon, despite an apology (and a beer purchase, 6 bottles of my second fav, though it was done before the problem cropped up)

It's kind of a dumb thing, but it's because my mom didn't pick me up at the mall. We'd made arrangements for her to pick me up after her shift since I had a bunch of errands to do. My errands got interrupted by my cousin taking me out to do wedding stuff and I made her drop me off at hte mall so I could still get picked up by my mom (she doesn't have a cell and her work wasn't answering)

So I made my cousin drop me off to get picked up, but my mom didn't show, I ended up having to take the bus home and got home just as she did, her shift ended up going late and she didn't have my cell number with her


i just wish I had someone reliable in my life for a change

 

i actually forgive pretty easily. theres only been a few times that i haven't or took a long time to forgive. theres one person i will never ever forgive.

 

I posess infinite love, compassion, and forgiveness.



... Don't blame you for being pissed though. Sorry you had to take the bus.

 

I've actually forgiven pretty easily for my whole life, but my mother is a different story, she's given me the silent treatment for weeks over petty arguments and made my life hell until she decides to forget about it, so the last fight we had where it was supposedly "all my fault" and as usual i had to be the one to take responsibility i just avoided her and ignored her phone calls for weeks and i still don't actually take her seriously. IT doesn't seem to be doing anything, but i sure feel a hell of a lot better.

So how readily did your mum accept responsibility and apologise? Is that something she might normally do or was it a rare occasion? either way it was pretty shitty and i'm sorry you had a bad night. I'd probably give yourself time to see how you feel tommorow.

 

she apologized right when she saw me
but, apologizing only does so much. Actions speak a lot louder than words.
Don't get me wrong, I love my mom to pieces. But she's on the flaky end of things and it's getting really tiring to deal with, to be the adult in the relationship when she's 21 years older than me.

It's happened before, and again that time there was a problem because she didn't have my cell number with her. Hell, she has my old cell and while it doesn't have an active plan, she could put my numbers into it and carry it with her as a phone book for folks she contacts regularly. She doesn't seem to memorize numbers very well at all

 

My mother's an alcoholic. Some of my first memories are keg parties. Can't count on her for shit, but I love her.
I've forgiven her many times, as she has me.

 

it dpeneds on the exact situation..

 

Oh, get over it. She didnt have your cell number or a cell. Would she want to lose her job over having to pick you up at the mall?

How old are you again? You sound like you're fifteen.

So trivial, so once again, get over it.

 

Ihmurria, after reading Lucky's post, I decided to actually read yours

I'm sorry to say this, but I agree with her

 

Thanks Duck. I'm sorry if I sounded mean also. It was just what I thought.

 

Tums?

 

you stop whining too

 

Haha

 

yeah, but you'd be thinking of Micha the whole time

 

Do I get to see some man on man action in here or what? I got my pop corn and I'm waiting.

 

I'll suck his dick for $5000

 

Scary, takin the offer?

 

It depends on the reason why I'm upset, but normally I don't hold a grudge too often. Takes up too much energy, and I hate turmoil/negative energy in my life.

Although there is one person with whom I can't ever seem to shake my grudge. This has been going on for probably 12 years. I try, but it's next to impossible because this person, although I love her in my heart, is such a miserable person with a lot of hatred inside. You can't trust her, and she will act as though she's changed, but go back to her negative and hurtful ways once again.

Anyway.

 

*shrugs* it's more a question of reliability than the actual incident
if it was the first time ever, it wouldn't be that big a deal

well, lesson learned, don't expect people to be reliable/dependable

 

thats a sucky situation, been in it before. sorry darling.



to answer the question....


well, Ive had cases where I forgave way too fucking easily. Then, with others, I do not, and will not forgive because of what that person has done.