How do you react to something like this?

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  1. Idle_Billy

    Idle_Billy Banned

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    So my father was involved in the management of the town rugby club and there was a sort of split among the committee members. Anyway this other man (Mr X) fell on the opposite side to my dad. My dad said a few times that he noticed coldness from the Mr X and his wife (who wasn't in the club), who'd show up to the club every now and then with sandwiches. Anyway the wife refused to acknowledge my father's presence.

    Apart from the fact that there had been a few disagreements in the club my dad could never fathom why this lady was so cold towards him. Anyway fast forward a few years and this lady is at some gathering or other that my dad is at too. She starts to talk to my father as if nothing had ever happened. The first my dad told me he said was "oh are we speaking to each other now again?". She replied by saying something to the effect of "look, we had our differences but it's all in the past now". That sounds fair enough on the one hand. But she didn't even apologise or make clear what it was she resented from him..How do you react to something like that?

    But that man's family was using the rugby club all for a teenage disco, and making a lot of money out of it. Others in the club resented this. That lady's son ran the facebook page for the disco, and after my dad told me about the disagreement in the club, I used an anonymous account to take the piss out of them. The husband of that lady went mad about it during one of the club meetings, because he knew that it was either someone from my father's side of the club, or someone that had been told by someone on that side, that had went to facebook. After that I'd imagine that they would have been cold towards all members on my father's side of the split too.

    I'd say the family eventually got over it. It must have been confusing for them too... they probably didn't even realise why they were being so cold to my father.
     
    Idle_Billy, Apr 12, 2020
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  3. ~Zen~

    ~Zen~ California Tripper Administrator

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    People are strange, aren't they?

    I notice that these days people go about saying things like 'my bad,' instead of apologizing.

    To me that's really lame, and not grounds for understanding - or forgiveness of some thing that was wrong.

    It is in moments like these that I have to remember my hippie roots, and forgive all with love and compassion. I do think that those types are just not as evolved spiritually or emotionally to deal with any type of admission of guilt, nor care to apologize. I just let it roll off my back like water on a duck and smile to myself.
     
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  5. YouFreeMe

    YouFreeMe Visitor

    I think "my bad" is the same thing as saying that one is sorry-it is just another way to admit fault in a situation. What is wrong with that?
     
    YouFreeMe, Apr 12, 2020
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