To me, if the cum makes it past my nipples, then it was a great orgasm, regardless of how it actually felt. This is kind of hard to explain. Even though orgasms with smaller amounts of cum might actually feel more satisfying sometimes, as in, my balls are empty, there is nothing left, I would prefer to have as much cum as possible, even if it leaves me actually feeling less satisfied. The best possible orgasm for me would be one in which the first spurt covers my shoulder and hits the chair/bed behind my head, raining down a fine mist of a trail down my chest. The next spurt would be a nice, thick blob that lands somewhere just above my belly button. The remainder would form a very dense pool around the base of my member. The above scenario assumes I am jerking off to porn, which is pretty much the extent of my current sex life. Of course, the VERY best, perfect orgasm would be what I said above, except it would be her body instead of mine.
All of my orgasms are kind of earth shattering. What makes a difference is how I got there. Having one with my husband's penis inside me is the holy graal of orgasms. Having one out of masturbation is the worst it can be. So, the intensity is always awesome, with rare exceptions, but I'll always prefer the ones I have while fucking my husband above all others. I prefer orgasms given to me, than orgasms I give myself. Orgasms with other men are good, too, but not as good as those with my husband.
the best seemed to build up like a wave at the beach with this expectation and barrier that suddenly lets loose, like a dam and I am flooded with release and pleasure at the same time. My body is tingling and it is best to lie in the arms of my partner and feel our heart beats slow down and time to start again.
Not being a guy, which means not having a penis, meaning I can't compete with the above writers ............ Probably for a woman, the length of time and the totality of our body the orgasm involves. Some are cute: nice and short and focusing in our pubic area, whilst others seem to unleash wave after wave of tense/release, tense release all our our bodies. ....... with a fair amount of gradation between the two. Real squirting - that is when fluid is released because of orgasm (as opposed to simple bladder massaging) is different again. Not necessarily better, but different.
This is a tough question to answer. Initially I was going to say intensity but it's far more complex for me then that. I'd have to say in no particular order the mood, intensity, company (the man), toxicity, and environment would have a combined affect on the outcome of my orgasm. When I'm feeling particularly bad (bad girl) I need pain along with the pleasure (dom/sub). This orgasm has torn sheet and drawn blood (my nails tearing his flesh and such). It's just very intense for both of us. He's not the only one with physical markings of such great pleasure I too possess reminders. Then there are the times where we are rolling it slow. This is where I like to finish him off riding him as he's sitting up. That contact makes for a slow yet intense orgasm that's just makes our bodies hot. I love when he's able to come at the same time and our juices mix inside me. Though this is a slow orgasm the intensity is still great yet different. These are just 2 examples for me. Two very extreme examples both of which I crave equally.
This may be true for you, but doesn't apply to me. I'm not going to try to speak for womankind. I can only know what I'm told about someone else's experiences. I know my orgasm, regardless of type, was particularly good if I feel totally satisfied, and don't want any more. I don't experience a pleasure plateu after orgasm that keeps me close enough to the peak to be able to have another one easily or quickly. So, when I hunger for more, I know there is a long (though fun) road ahead. When I feel that warm, drowsy pull of sleep calling, I have usually had a better orgasm than when I feel a surge of energy. I can push through that urge to roll over and sleep. I mean, who would I be if it was just over because my needs were all met and my boxes were all ticked. But even that warm, heavy exhaustion feels so good! Usually, when I've been encouraged to close my eyes and drift, I'm wide awake (and thirsty!) in a few minutes. After a couple of pints of water, and maybe a trip to the loo, I'm good to go again if he's good to go again. But it's that initial full-body call for rest that lets me know I had it as good as it gets. That almost never happens solo. For me, the best times are usually shared experiences with a man.
It is measured by how elevated you feel not just by how much / how hard you cum - even though there is a slight relation but you can have a termendous orgasm with very little or even not cum. It just depends.
