How do you handle rude people?

Like this:
Hundreds of children being taken from their parents at US border

 

Lol!

 

This thread has made me realize how few rude people I actually encounter. For the most part, folks are friendly. When they aren't, I am so taken aback I end up just saying nothing and then thinking of a million good comebacks to their rudeness 20 minutes later.

 

I don't meet rude people all that often either, but when I do, I wonder if it's best to just stay silent and avoid. Sometimes, I think that's best. Path of least resistance? lol

 

my weed is to loud to hear this shit..

 

im dealing with one right now

40 dollar job is going to cost 80

its here...could do it now instead of lazing on the internet but im putting it off until tomorrow

 

well, since I wind up being reminded that 'setting them on fire' isn't a socially acceptable option.. I try to empathize first. then if they're still pricks, I generally give them an earful then walk off or punch the ignore button.

 

turns out it will be over $300

problem wasnt what we thought it was

 

I'm still trying to figure out how to handle rude people.

In real life
&
On hf

My solutions to deal with rudeness always seem to be wrong for one reason or another.

1.Ignore solution= pussy

2.Curse out solution= disrepectful

3.Clever comback solution= went to far/over the line

4.Cockyness solution= being a dick now (no pun intended)

5.Hurtful solution= personal attack

6.Jabs/Digs solution= being a jerk/asshole

7.Continuous poking soulution= Harassment

8.You hurt my feelings solution= Grow up

 

Ignoring doesn’t equal “pussy,” in my opinion. It’s just realizing that your energy is better spent elsewhere.

 

I'm ignoring this co worker for months now.
He says his little jabs, comments, digs.

I just ignore and redirect my energy.

My other "friends" co workers say ... " dude say something, stick up for yourself "

No I'm just going to ignore him...

Friends say...." Dude don't be a pussy " you got to say something back.

So now i deal with peer pressure in real life and could be scenario on hf.

 

Everything is more socially acceptable if you don't do it in public

 

Very true, but it is sometimes more involved.
Life is too short to ignore everyone who does not share your opinions.

Rather than start a slanging match, I abide my time and try to see what caused the outburst. Then after a few hours or days, I attempt to find out what caused their outburst. In real life it is easier, because I already know some of the answers, maybe an immediate response to their rudeness such as "I will discuss this further when you are not full of alcohol", will be the trick. Like most things in life, time heals and treating other people with respect always pays off in the long run.
Needless to say, their are some people who thrive on anger, but I like to feel that I have given them a few chances before ignoring them completely.

The same is true on the internet, but it can be more difficult. Their is no way of knowing exactly what caused their outburst and as I may have said in the past, I am fairly certain that some people are stupid enough to go online when they are either blind drunk of sky high. I suppose it is better than them going off for a drive in their car. I often wonder if some people have got themselves banned here for that exact reason.

Having now said all this, I am fairly certain that you treat people in much the same way.

 

It sounds to me as if you have sent him a clear message by ignoring him for a while, Perhaps now is the time to sort things out with him. Just be casual about it and preferably sort things out somewhere in private.

 

You're right Wil
I've been called a pussy long enough...lol

Next week Monday?
Or before the weekend?

 

Someone not sharing my opinion doesn’t make him/her rude. lol I think mean spiritedness is more of what I was getting at and life is too short to tolerate people who are like that, imo.

I try.

I tend to also shy away from hive or herd mentality, also.

 

You may be quite surprised. It is quite possible that he will be keen to put an end to all the BS.

 

With your easy going personality, I doubt that too many people are rude to you .LOL.
But I agree that people who are full of bravado in public are normally a waste of space. For that very reason, I tend to avoid social gatherings where people drink too much and make fools of themselves. I would rather go off and play with the cat.

 

Rude enough, I might handle them like this