How do you feel when your lover cums too fast?

Premature Ejaculation. Sometimes it happens.

You are in bed with a new friend for the first time. He is a top and you both want to make love. You enjoy some foreplay with him, say about 5 minutes of kissing, stroking, sucking and licking. It all feels so good, then he whispers into your ear, "I want to fuck you now!" He lubes your anus, fingers it to loosen you a little, then he eases himself into your ass-pussy. After 30 seconds of thrusting in and out of you, he moans "I'm coming!" and he climaxes inside you. He has that happy, satisfied glow on his face that makes you feel good. He slips his now-flaccid penis out of you. Maybe he apologizes for ending your lovemaking too quickly. Maybe he does not say "Sorry that I came too quickly. We can do more in a minute." Maybe he does say that.

How does all of that make you feel? What does your new friend tell you? When he leaves your bed, will you see him again or ghost him and forget him or maybe discuss it all with him, find out if he has a problem and try and help him overcome his tendency towards premature ejaculation?

 

It is always important to get to know each other better.

 

When the excitement level leads to a fast orgasm, I know that I will have some work cut out to regain the lust and momentum for a second cumming.

 

That describes my first time.

I was nervous. I met this dude through CL personals. There was a lot of back and forth texting and emailing. I felt I had sufficiently screened him.

The day came for the deed. It was a Friday and I was off work. I woke up and started by getting high. Then I toyed myself some to get in the mood. I was a virgin. We texted back and forth and he was running late. By the time he got there I was pretty fucked up and had played with my ass so much there wasn’t much fear of it hurting when he went in.

I was expecting magic. He put on a rubber. My legs were in the air as he slid it in. About the time I was getting accustomed to him being in me I saw his face turn red. His brow furrowed. Dammit, he was cumming.

I felt confident in that he I was hot enough that he couldn’t help but cum. I was dejected in that my first time lasted about 2 minutes.

 

I learned not to let that upset me; kinda unrealistic to expect a guy to be in total control of this. If he cums too fast, well, he did what I wanted him to do: Cum in me. I honestly don't mind being screwed but I do mind it taking "all damned day" and I'd love it if he came sooner rather than later. Besides, if we have time, we can go again; otherwise, I got screwed and creamed... and now it's his turn.

 

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I want a second one immediately!

 

I do not mind a guy that cums too fast. I just suck him hard again so he can slide it back in for another round.

 

thats ok .. my bottom is dripping with his cum .. lets flip .. your turn

 

I met with a guy for the third time and he wanted to top me for the first time. I’m very tight and he is above average in both thickness and length, so it took a minute and some effort to get him in me. It wasn’t 10 seconds he announced “I’m going to cum!” I have to say I was disappointed. I had been with him before and had sucked him to completion. So I knew he was a one and done guy. He wouldn’t get hard again and would loose interest in sex all together so I wasn’t going to get any relief. So yes it was disappointing.

 

You could look at this situation as a bit on an ego booster when Mr. I Can Fuck All Night busts his nut before he can get the head in your butt or you just started licking his shaft and, yeah, that happened. I was going down on a guy, started by sucking on his balls and not ten seconds later, he was blasting cum all over the place! I lapped up what cum he had left in him, consoled him - he was very distraught because he came so fast - and went back down on him, sucking him gently until he got hard, then got him to spill all of that load in my mouth.

He asked if I was mad at him and I told him that I wasn't and that it happens, so why be mad? Then I stuffed my dick in his ass...

 

Yes!

 

That’s why I blow him first, that way he fucks me really well

 

My wife had that happen several times (including me on our wedding night). She takes it as a compliment that he weas so turned on that he couldn't hold it. She tells him it's okay and that he will last longer. She gives him time to reload and have a second fuck that always lass longer.

 

You have to get a woman to orgasim before you even insert, either by your tongue or by your hands. When you do that her motor is already running so when you insert she will orgasim so much faster, so if you pop early she’s already gotten hers.

 

It happens. Especially if she's sucking me and I often have to ask her to slow down so that I can last longer. Sometimes she just goes faster to make me let it go but I've always been like that. I can last longer if I'm fucking her but a mouth just does me right in.

 

What is the ideal length of time a man should last while fucking?

 

Not sure about ideal but I would guess a few positions so she gets to accept your cock in a few different ways is good. But even if it's in the beginning...if she' going to climax, don't stop and don't change. Just do her and don't worry about how long you've been in her. Your job and duty is to get her to cum. So do your job and your cock will be well rewarded then and in the future. If you're doing the clock watching, you're not doing her.

 

I totally agree with you that she must cum first and fully satisfied before the man climaxes. Usually women takes longer than men to climax. Therefore he should be able to keep going until she cums. Sometimes, we experience that it prolongs our pleasure by keeping ìnside for a longer time without climaxing.