Hello! New to the whole forums thing, so we'll see how this thing goes. I've been having a few anger issues lately. Nothing that stems into anything serious, I don't hit out at anyone physically or anything stupid like that. But lately I have found that I can sometimes get so frustrated at some small things that I do end up puching the steering wheel or yelling out loud, just to let out my frustrations. Luckily for me (so as not to embarass myself) to I do it in public, but I do Let it out a bit and it turns me a bit mental. Does any of this sound like just an anger issue? Or would I be having a stress issue? Have had a few things happen personally recently thta may have affected me. But anyway... Mostly I wanna know how others deal with anger so that I don't get any worse. Cause thats my main concern. Cheers!! :devil::devil:
Just yesterday I called a cashier a whore and punched; almost broke the paper towel dispenser at a mall restroom (no paper). Contrary to you though, I have fun with my fits of anger. :biggrin: It`s pretty common for me to bump people out in public who are inconsiderate in their use of public space or don`t look in front of them, or simply think that I`m going to just move aside for their lazy asses to pass on the sidewalk. Also found a special trick to bully people who stand to close behind me in lines. I just stick my elbow out and elbow them really hard for them to understand a foot or so around my body is still my space. :2thumbsup: Like FightClub, I find that many people are quick to be inconsiderate, but do everything to avoid a fight when they find someone who will actually take them up on it.
I take the Norbit route and go down to the basement and scream very quietly to myself because I don't want anyone to hear. Especially Rasputia. I try and walk it off.
yeah, I have a problem with people like that as well. like the line will move any faster if they stand as close to the next person as possible. thanks for the tip, I'll try that myself next time I'm in such a situation. i usually only come across that shit in the groceries' store and i usually go there after 10pm to avoid crowds. But I've had my share of run-ins with this. i always keep a healthy space between myself and the person in front of me, and sometimes people who are behind me start getting all nervous about that and ask me whether i'm standing in line at all and buying something or not. it's completely ridiculous. so i tell them, i don't want to crawl under the skin of the person in front of me and the line won't move any faster if i did. not like they get it though. i've sometimes actually gone as far as to use a cart for the few items that i'm buying just to keep a space between myself and the person behind me.
Just exercise often. it helps release natural relaxing chemicals, so when a situation pops up it will anger you less. find whatever works for you. weights, running, biking, punching bag. or do them all so you do not get bored of always doing the same one.
I bottle it up and drink a lot, happiest guy you'll ever meet but on the inside I'm ready to snap lol
Anger is only a problem if you let it provoke you to violence, express it in an uncontrolled fashion or suppress it. Denying anger, or bottling it up, can do more then just hurt the person themself, it can hurt those around them when they eventually do snap. It is never the people who seem angry that you have to worry about... Someone who can freely express their anger, rarely has issues with it building up to a snapping point. The ones that are quiet, seem happy all the time, especially the ones that try to force that happiness on others... those are the ones you should worry about... because EVERYONE feels anger at some point in time...
Anger is a healthy emotion. It's what you do with the anger that can be a problem. I had to get in to therapy a few years back to get a handle on and find an outlet for my anger. I need to do something that makes me tired. Ride a bike, jog, something strenuous. Then after I calm down, I take a look at what happened and nine times out of ten, the anger is not justified. It is more a misunderstanding somewhere.
^^^agree I usually vent it somewhere away from other people and try not to get them involved especially if it's over something stupid. In athletics like running controlled anger can actually benefit performance.
Actually, anger is not a healthy emotion. Literally for health reasons. I read in this little booklet from St. Vincents that it can actually kill you. For example, it often causes a heart attack for older people but it also has an effect on younger people as well. I remember this because I also had to go to therapy for anger issues and I read that info while I was going to therapy and me being so young at the time, it kind of freaked me out.
it's not healthy in a literal sense, but figuratively speaking the catharsis of anger release is obviously a great benefit.
to answer the question instead of learning how to control your anger, i'd recommend trying to pinpoint exactly what is causing you to be angry in the first place. if you are concerned, remove any anger you feel rather than subduing it.
I have abandoned anger as a choice for trying to get what I want. It doesn't work and there are too many noxious side effects.
I have been doing a technique called EFT (emotional freedom technique). It has worked for me, and everyone that I have shown it. If you get on youtube and google "faster EFT" it will bring you to my favorite EFT practitioner. Hopefully you get a chance to check it out, I promise it will work.
How do I deal with anger? Smoke weed :smoking: You will soon find that you have little or no anger to deal with. :sunny:
