Ok so me and my girlfriend have been having sex for awhile now. My question is that how do i know if she is having a orgamsm is there anyway to tell? she does moan or groan she, i only know of one time that i know she did cuz she cumed once, but is there anyway to feel it or somethin when im inside her when she gets there? I try to go as long as i can at differnet speeds to see how she likes it but she seems to like it all but i cant tell if she is really pleasured by it, i would rather please her then have myself pleased
bascially... her body will jerk and shell have a big ass grin on her face. If missing one or the other you dont give her orgasms and you are worthless. Jump off a cliff
That can definitely be part of it. You really should be trying to achieve a level of intimacy that would allow you to comfortably ask, and her to comfortably answer, whether she's had an orgasm -- and what you might be better off doing to make it happen if it hasn't been happening. I looked this up so that you could find it easily. It's a sex-help book by a really with-it couple who specialize in this sort of thing. I have a copy, and can vouch that it is an excellent book. It's called Sexual Awareness: Enhancing Sexual Pleasure by Barry and Emily McCarthy. It's the kind of book that you can and should just go through with your partner and learn from together. It has lots of exercises you can try (by that I mean activities to do together to bring sexuality to a high peak between you). Here is the link: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0786700157/qid=1109277592/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/104-8763798-9683947?v=glance&s=books GET it. You will thank me. (It even has nice drawings!) -Jeffrey
Sometimes, if she has the really really big kind you'll feel the muscles tighten around your penis, and you'll feel the vibrations...and like PJ said, if you're being THAT intimate, don't be afraid to ask her if she had an orgasm and what you should be looking for - that way you won't have to ask her everytime.
Just ask her! If she hasn't orgasmed around you, ask her if she'd be comfortable masturbating infront of you - one of the best ways to learn about what can turn a partner on. Plus, super-erotic. I know with my orgasms, I'm definately much louder, and I twitch and spasm... back arching and all that. Hell, my last orgasm, I started scratching myself because the orgasm was almost too good, too overwhelming. Mwaha, orgasms rock.
When stimulation occurs, blood flow is extra to the vagina. it gets really wet and tingly. I loose all control over my breathing, and moaning. my toes curl and i clutch whatever is close to me. when i have an orgasm the inside of my vagina pulsates repeatedly over and over and over.. it just explodes with pleasure. i never want that moment to end.. but unfortunately it does lol. you should be able to feel the cervix pulsate several times. Alot of girls fake it, buy moaning and skratching at their partners back ect.. the only tru way to tell is if you feel the cervix pulsate repeatedly :H
They especially rock the way you talk about them, gorgeous! I wanted to mention that the McCarthy book emphasizes that orgasm should NOT be a GOAL! They have a lot of "non-demand" exercises, where it's all about just enjoying being intimate with each other, and not viewing the non-achievement of orgasm as some sort of failure. Yeah, I love to orgasm, but that doesn't mean that I don't absolutely love the feeling of having a woman's mouth or vagina around my cock! So even without orgasming, the sexual fun of that would be satisfying enough. I could have seven encounters like that without orgasm for every one that had an orgasm, and I'd call every one of them worthwhile! -Jeffrey
Wouldnt it be much easier to say "hey are you orgasming or not".. then to ask a bunch of sick strangers what they think? The tightening dosnt necessairly mean orgasm.
Right ask her... and then tell her that if your not making her orgasm that you want to and ask her how she likes it.. have her teach you... I can fake a pretty good orgasm.. i can tighten myself and fake heavy breathing and moaning and scratch my nails into your back... i usually fake it when i know im not gonna get there and im starting to get bored...
I believe a tell tale sign is when she stops breathing for a second or few. I'm sure this can be faked as well, though. Later! -Shane
