How Do I Know If I Fall In Love With My Fuck Buddy Or Not? If Yes , What Should I Do?

a few months ago, my 8 years relationship ended in a not graceful way. my ex was the only boy i ever dated and slept. anyway, it hurt me deeply so i think i am not ready for another relationship. my friend introduced a cute guy to me and we slept together at the first time we met. the sex was fantastic and we had fun.

On the following weekend he planned a movie night and asked me to stay over. it was romantic. i don't remember how many times we did. i only remember that i could barely walk on the next day.

however, now i do not feel the happiness as i expected. i am worried actually.

i feel guilty. i am so scared that people will find out that i have a fuck buddy because this totally violates the moral rules i grew up with. the worst thing is that i feel i am attached to him. i cannot stop thinking of him and wondering why he does not text me right now. i miss him. i miss his cuddling and kissing , not the blowjob he gave me or the orgasm.

i am so scared of falling love with him because it is not the plan.

i do not know what i am suppose to do. cut him off? i never had a fuck buddy before and i could not tell my friends i am in this awkward situation.

i cannot tell if i really fall in love or i just tired of being lonely.

i am so shamed and sad...........

 

Be honest with him and ask him how he feels about it.

 

first of all you sound stressed. to me, as an outside observer, this sounds like a very simple straight forward situation your in, but i have a feeling you are making it super complicated in your head. so i would suggest: fuck your plan, go with the flow.

 

you mean tell him that i love him?
i do not even know it is love or not.
i told him that i like him.
is it a really good idea to say more than that?

 

you are right. i am too stressed to work. i feel like i need to see a physiologist actually.
when my friend introduced this guy to me , she wanted him to make me happy and forget my ex.
i did not expect it would turn out to be like this. i guess this is culture difference? she grew up here but i was not.
last night another guy asked me out. but i was checking on my phone and wondering why there is no new text message during date.
isn't that pathetic
i do not know how other people handle this situation easily
apparently i am screwed

 

You need to talk to him about it. Having a romantic movie night and sleepover sounds like more than fuck buddies would generally do. Sounds like he may want more than a fwb situation, but knows you just got done with a messy break up. I'd hold off on prematurely jumping into some thing new though.

 

how to talk to him? tell him i may love him?
i know i cannot build a relationship with him.
i am seeking methods for keeping him as a sex buddy without fall in love with him
i really want to separate my emotional feelings from sex

 

Yeah, tell him you're developing feelings. Is only fair for him to know that. Separating feelings from sex isn't Something you learn, imo. You can either do it, or you can't. It may be time to accept you're not the type of person to carry on a fwb relationship.

 

talk talk talk to him is always a womans response!

but what are you gonna tell him? that you may or may not be in love with him? thats not gonna get you anywhere.

just keep going and see how you feel. if you can handle just being fuck buddies then you will know. if you get jelouse or want somehting more than you will also know.

so just go with the flow, dont kill the vibe by taking him to dr. phil and talking it out.

you will know what to do or when to talk to him by how you feel.