How do I break-up with the love of my life ?

I've been with this one guy for a year + months now.
And we use to be absolutely great together.
But now , he's a total jerk to me ..
And he wont answer my calls or texts until days later.
(We're both 16)
And when we do talk he makes up lame excuses about why he didn't answer.
I feel like I'm his problem.
I've tried talking to him about how I feel in our relationship,
( Because we've always talked stuff out)
and he always says he doesn't want us to end.
But his actions are so much louder than what his words say.
But I feel like I'm being taken for granted in a deep, cold feeling way..
I love him so much , but I feel like I have to let him go.
I'm falling out of love with him ,
We don't communicate like we use to..
And his actions are eating me up , like I feel like it's my fault why he's not talking / texting me back..
Like I'm annoying or doing something wrong, I don't feel like I'm what he wants anymore..and it hurts..
But how do you tell a person you've been with SO long with NO BREAK-UPS,
that you want to end it..
A person that you still love , but feel like he's better off with someone else,
because you're not "it" anymore to him.
Do I blow my feelings to him , then break it off?
Do I break it off with no explanation ?
Help me , someone .
And please don't put anything simple because , its NOT easy breaking up
with someone you've been with for so long.

 

one year + months is nothing.

he doesn't sound like the love of your life at all.

just tell him that you're breaking up with him and why. of course it won't be that simple, but it seems like a good starting point at least.

 

.. he didnt use to always be an asshole.

 

i'm sure he didn't, or you probably would have never started dating him, but that's completely irrelevant to anything at this point.

 

'Cause you said "he doesn't sound like the love of your life at all."
That's why I said " he didn't use to always be an asshole."
But eh , I guess I'll take your advice . lol.

 

i get you, but the actual love of your life would not be an asshole at all. a good guy who turns into an asshole after a year is just someone you loved for a little while.

 

You're totally right .
And I've tried breaking up with him before
and he said he was gonna change , but went back to his own ways..
Like I'm totally sprung on him.
How do I not let him persuade me to stay with him ..?

..I've thought that ..
And then later thought maybe ,
he's just going through something and not telling me..

 

Tell him that he's not the person you fell in love with anymore and that you're not happy being with him, then leave him.

It's not a good idea to beat yourself up over these things. You don't owe anyone an explanation. If he's not "the one" anymore then end it as soon as possible. Sorry your relationship had to end this way.

 

^ Thanks ..

 

You are exaggerating grossly. You need to bring things into perspective.

It may not be easy at 16 but it's important.

 

wrap a piece of dog shit in tin foil

give it to him

tell him you baked brownies

 

the love of your life and you are 16? you have not lived your life yet so how do you know? don't get upset about this, we think we are in love so many times at a young age.

 

Like people have said, he may not be the love of your life, but then again he may very well be. What if you stay with him and he really does improve and you're with him until you're both old and wrinkly? Assuming his personality change is permanent is just as bad as assuming he's your permanent love.

 

Oi Carumba, already talking like this at 16?

"Because we've always talked stuff out" We've? We? You mean he just sits there and nods while you tell him how he should think.

He's probably having cold sweats waking up in the middle of the night after dreams of being smothered and suffocated by a giant blanket the same colour as your favourite jumper

 

This is not the love of your life, this is an infatuation. At 16 you don't know shit about love, believe me. Don't sweat it, you might not meet the love of your life for another 5, 10, 20 years!

 

That on the other hand is total crap.

Older people also know shit about love, believe ME

Or in another 5, 10, 20 years you may just stop trying to bat above your average all the time, give up and latch on to the only one around you that will put up with you 24/7. Refer to them as the love of your life even though there are another half dozen you would have preferred to marry, but you were too self centred at the time or too scared to try. Which is what actually happens.

Then get on the net and try make themselves feel better for never taking that risk and being either romeo or juliet by belittling 16 yr olds that do

Jay_hasBeauty, dont listen to the old farts, leave it too long and its just like musical chairs. Which includes me, my first post was just about the nightmare that is the clingy female, not about you, I dont know you

 

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It may be exaggerating in your eyes but clearly my shoe size isn't your fit..
But .. I guess , thanks ? anyway...

 

No , we're both very mature ..
WE as in HE & I both talk & sort stuff out.
And if he's feeling a certain way , he'll talk stuff out with me too.
It's very mutual .
& Yea , I probably am smothering him..
That's what I feel like I'm doing..
That's the whole point of me , mainly asking how to break up with him.

 

focus on his penis, and you will never notice his asshole..

 

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I don't know what in the world you're trying to imply ..
the other post I was smothering & whatnot , now you're saying don't listen to the "old farts"..
Just give me a result out of that brain of yours, of how to break up w/ him ..
That's the WHOLE POINT !