How do I break my little fetish to someone?

So yeah I'm a guy who happens to like it in the backdoor. A very small sect of my sexual partners know my kink but the more typical ones I leave in the dark about it. But, my main issue is I have a girlfriend (we're swinger status due to college distance)...who doesn't know. Why haven't I told her? Well she knows I'm majorly into sex...though she probably just misconstures my scienitific/spiritual lust for it with common male hormones...but shes more of a traditionalist when it comes to it. You know: males dominant, toys are for loners, etc...etc... Basically my complete opposite.

Point is I'm really worried how I'm gonna be satisfied once this swinger status is gone and I dont have the particular partners to satisfy that querk of mine. How do I convince the typical girl to do that to me? I mean I have such a deep affinity for sexual exploration that reducing myself to 4 shifting positions and the occasional hand job/bow job combo arent going to be enough once thats my only outlet. What should I do?

 

Try talking to the girl...if she bails...she wasnt the right one anyway !!

 

I agree. My wife and I have almost exclusively engaged in anal sex for the past 13 years. If anything were to happen to her, when I was ready for a sexual relationship again, I would have to break that to the lady early, as I don't think I would be sexually satisfied without anal sex.

 

Seems to me that if 'unconventional' sex is your thing, and not hers, the relationship doesn't have much hope to begin with, unless there is a MAJOR emotional bond.

 

I'm also into many kinds of "unconventional sex". I have had problems finding someone that has much in common with me inside and outside of the bedroom. I think that timing is important. Concerning timing, choosing the right time of day, or the mood, is fairly easy. The tough part of timing for me, is the timing in the relationship as a whole. I would like to know about my partners sexual inhibitions early on, to know if we are compatible in that area, but unfortunately some women may feel that I'm only interested in sex, if sex is brought up too soon.

I didn't give you much advice yet, but just be honest, and bring it up in the right setting/mood.

 

Um.... dude I have the litteral EXACT same problem. The solution? There is none. Life's a complete bitch when you have a great girlfriend who is sex-wise vannila and sexually incompatible with you. It sucks. Badly. I hate social standards. If a girl isnt into giving it to guys in the backdoor, I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT! But the fact is, in the world we live in, if you tell her wut ur into she's liekly to think you're gay or a freak or something- not just a guy with a little fettish.