How did your parents discipline you?

Okay, so in the thread "What pisses you off?" we got a little sidetracked on the parental discipline subject. Since I don't want to sidetrack it any farther, I thought I should make it it's own thread.

Those of us that were not physically disciplined were discussing what our parents did to keep us in line. What are your stories? Did your parents spank, beat, whip, or throw you down a well? And for the parents out there, what is it that you do that differs from your own parents? Do you feel that your own parents did the right thing by you, or were their methods totally off?
Just wanting to get some stories from people.

 

i was spanked on rare occasions. more often got time out, or had something taken away for a few weeks (tv, computer, video games, whatever)

then again i got in trouble rarely, and there were very few actual rules. i was expected to behave properly on my own, so very little was set in stone or made known. if i messed up, i was usually punished or talked to. i learned how to behave well and create as little trouble for myself as possible, which ended up meaning creating as little trouble for others as possible

 

My shit was usually taken away for a specific amount of time but my mom usually caved before it was time to give it back and I usually got my stuff back earlier.

 

I can't remember my parents really disciplining me ever.. It was mostly just shouting matches, slamming doors and silent treatment.

 

with extreme violence and verbal abuse.

the leather belt, wooden spoons, metal rulers, high heels, a golf club, whatever was closest to hand at the time.

 

I'm not one of those.

 

I know about the wooden spoons, Red. Lol. That was when we were little. When we got older it was switches. My mom would make us pick them out ourselves and if we picked one that wouldn't hurt she'd make us go get another one. If we were really bad my dad would use his belt. I actually preferred the belt though because he'd only hit us 2 or 3 times and pause in between so it didn't hurt as much. Mom on the other hand would get us on our bare legs and go to town. Wack wack wack wack wack wack wack! Belt was sooo much better.

 

i only got spanked when i was really young, after that id be grounded from the phone and stuff.......................

 

my mum has given me a back hander on a few occasions, but i don't feel it did me any harm. most of the time though i didn't need to be discplined due to my mum being quite excepting and me not being very badly behaved. and my dad would just have to be there looking scary for me to behave. he was my mums threat......'i'll tell your father'!! he never hit me as i said in the other thread, he was just scary....and still is at times.:tongue:

 

they didnt

 

I used to get spankings, and 'time out', groundings.... but my parents never stuck to their guns.

the pretty please I won't do it again got me out of a lot of stuff.... I'm pretty hard headed and I pretty much did what I wanted to... my dad was either too drunk to care, or just not there....

 

As a little kid, I got spankings when I reeeeaaaallly fucked up, but I got sent to my room most of the time when I was in trouble. I wasn't that bad, but my brother got to the point where he didn't respond to even spankings. Thank god he's not in jail. lol

 

My parents never disciplined me.

 

Oh, we can tell.

 

I never misbehaved without cause and never fucked up...

When I did, I was smart enough to not let them find out.

It has made me extremely independent.

 

There is a big difference between beating your kids and spanking them.

The main problem I see with physical discipline is when it is used because one or other of the parents had a shitty day and just blows a fuse over something minor.

As a kid, when I finally realised that my beatings weren't a result of the severity of my misbehaviour, but rather were completely dependant on my parents' moods, I stopped giving a fuck about whether what I did was 'right' or 'wrong'.

I honestly think that if I had been spanked solely for misbehaviour, it probably would have been a pretty effective method of disciplining me. Instead, the way it was, it worked out the complete opposite and actually lessened my adherence to my parents' rules.

 

i would get yelled at a lot and lectured endlessly. my mom disciplined. my dad did not.
she would always think of previous examples of my disobedience and link it to culture.
sometimes i'd get a smack by hand or with a stick, but it was no big. her expression scared me more.

never was grounded though. for the most part, I was and still am a good girl.

shaped me a lot, i'm thankful for it. (eventhough I am nowhere near her ideal)

 

My Mom used to make us hold out our hand, palm down and slap it. It stung, but it was the mental game of offering out your hand for punishment. My Dad did the arm squeeze warning. It always worked!

Other than that it was "go to your room", "no TV", "sit there and DON'T MOVE"....that sort of thing and they always followed up on it. Me and my little brother were pretty well-behaved though.

 

i was spanked, had a weight lifting belt used on my back, punched, grounded, slapped...
it worked and i have no problems with what my parents did to discipline me

 

wooden spoon


and they were....and still are really good at mental abuse