How did you discover your mate was cheating.

She didn't come home one nite and her diaphram (birth control) was not in the drawer where she keeps it. She got home at 7am next morning. I asked and she said she slept with a guy she met at night school but did not fuck him. i said I think this marriage is over, why don't you pack some things and leave. Both remained very calm. the good thing is my migraine headaches stopped that week.

 

heard it from a friend

 

luigi boards

 

No cheat
No cheated on

 

principle called home.

 

I didn't pay the correct tax rates when I flipped over that community chest card.

 

She told me

 

In the past two relationships it was always because I sensed it. Things were off. Neither of them were man enough to admit it so i snooped and found evidence. Such feeble attempts at hiding it too. If someone is ever afraid of you seeing their history or their email, then you have a problem.

 

Either that or they jerk off to some really weird shit.

 

I think it's more of a "you sensed that something was off" thing.
I don't see anything wrong or weird about people keeping their emails to themselves.

 

remind me never to plan a surprise party for you.

 

He put me and his girlfriend in the same room together (neither of us knew about each other) and sat back and watched us figure it out.

That was last Thursday.

 

Oh shit, no!!!! I am so sorry, Ash. That is all kinds of fucked up. What did you end up doing?

 

Too much snooping can damage you mutual trust. I would not be too happy if I had to keep explaining to Jane that that girls name on my phone was my doctors receptionist, the person who I place orders with, or a work colleague.

 

No I don't see a problem with it, but there's a line. I don't snoop in my girlfriend's phone but she would often tell me "hey text so and so and tell them we're on the way" if she's driving. A person with something to hide wouldn't do that. I'm not saying you should be okay with weekly email checks from a jealous girlfriend. But if she's next to you and you're angling your phone away or leaving the room, that's shady.

If you're open with your partner then they won't be suspicious. That's all I'm saying. My exes were constantly obviously hiding shit from me so you're damn right I snooped. Anyone who denies having done it at least once is lying lol

 

Also, keep in mind I confronted both of them beforehand and was lied to. It was a last resort so that I could know the truth and break up with them.

 

I kind of hope the two of them didn't get upset over a stupid guy, lold at him, and went out together to get dinner and drinks.
And the guy was left all alone.

But life isn't a movie.

 

I hope so to, but I am pretty sure Ash is married to that stupid guy

 

Thanks. It's been shitty. I was in love with this guy. I let him into my life, my marriage, my home, my bed.

I broke things off with him, obviously. I'm finally starting to feel safe again in my own home. Counseling has been helpful.

 

Lol! Noooo, this wasn't my husband. My husband is amazing. We are non-monogamous...I thought you knew that?

My husband was pretty blindsided by the whole thing as well. He really liked and trusted the guy.