How can someone be so Blind?

Or how can I, more specifically.


2 months ago I decided that my girlfriend and I, after living together for just about 2 years, should not see each other any more. The relationship was good, but it was getting really serious. For only being 20 years old I panicked and said we should see other people. She was so sad she cried for a long time, and convinced me to say that we were just on a "break" and maybe we should try again after the summer. The way we parted was basically her telling me that whenevr I want to come back I can, she will have me back any way she can get me.

At the time I wanted to get away, all these things we said meant nothing to me. Then I was reintroduced to the life of being single. After a month and a half I missed her so badly I couldn't think about anything else. Everything reminded me of her, everything made me realize how special and rare what we had was, but I threw it all away. I loved her so much, more then anything else in the world, but for some odd reason I forgot that for just long enough to lose it.

When I went back to her, telling her I was a jackass and I screwed up, she made it known to me that she was quite enjoying her single life and that she in no way wanted me back in it.

The way she swung from being totally heads over in love with me to this was shocking, and painful. And now a few weeks later I still can't get her off my mind. It's driving me nuts. Everywhere I go I am reminded of her somehow, in some way.

Has anyone else had problems like this? How do I get over this girl? I am not going to be with her anytime time soon, that's for darn sure, so how do I get over her?

I definitely don't think the answer will come on a silver platter, but any advice would help.

 

you went from not wanting her to desperately wanting her that quickly, so why is it so surprising that she did to in the opposite direction.. ive been dumped twice by the same girlfriend over the last 3years and ive always taken her back.. not straight away the 2nd time cuz it hurt to much and i just couldnt, but love eventually got me

 

I'm afraid you don't get over it.. you fucked up, and you're going to have to live with it, harsh I know, but its the way it is - all you can do is learn from this, realise that it doesn't matter how old you are, the best things can happen to you at any age.

I did the same thing when I was about 18, thought a relationship was getting too serious, so I bailed. Sadly, I soon realised (and still do to this day)l that she was the love of my life and i'll never again be with anyone like her.

 

I have the same problem..but i am that girl...we were together for a year and half,we spent lots of time together,we both were so much happy...but then he felt he needs more freedom-he missed going out with his friends so he started spending more time with them than with me,i felt hurt-before i felt how much i'm important for him but then..i was sad most of the time we were together and he was sad because of me too, so we ended it-it was all about pain...so i hope at least HE will be happy now...
i am depressed now,i want it the way it was before!!i miss him so much......I wanna be with him again!!

Hope you and i will get over it sometimes...

I would love him wanting me back...

 

Ahh, an all too fimiliar story. I know many people that have gone through this one.
After dating happily for almost a year, my then 19 yr. old boyfriend decided that he needed more space. (we chisled down the issue to him needing to have sex with other people). It broke my heart and I cried so hard every night for like a week. Then I decided, to hell with him. I gave him what he wanted, his space. He did come back to me, and I did take him back, but things were never the same. We faught more, I was jealous more...it was just a bad situation, didn't do much for my mental well being, and its end was very ugly.
But at least I realized that I want to be with someone who knows they want to be with me.
Boys...think twice before wanting to stick it to some other gal besides your own lovely lady. You'll realize when it's too late that she's better than all the other girls you thought you wanted to be with.

 

I say tell her all that shit you just sprayed on these forums then, if she does'nt like it , tough and you'll have to live with it and it will become a small chapter of your life. Alternativley she will realise the same as you have realised and remeber all the good times etc etc, you'll get together have great 1st night sex and carry on.

If she tells you to piss off I've got a cool hot friend I'd sell you for £50