my boyfriend and i have been together for around a year and half. and when we were first together we had sex all the time. but now i never feel like doing it. he lives 40 minutes away, and no matter where we go our parents are always home so it makes it hard to do it. i think that might be the issue. i love him so much and i would never even think about leaving him. we are moving in together in april do you think this will help my mojo out? since we wont have parents around anymore?
Maby it's just a fase you're going trough that doesn't have to do with anything. I think that i'm going trough the same thing, so i can't help you much
From my own painful experience, you need to really dig into why you feel this way. What about your b/f is turning you off? Is it the drive? All the stress and overimportance of the act? Trying to make the time and then not, is a sign of something not good. Yes, you have been with him for a long time, but if you do not work through the problem, it will only get worse.
well i want to do it. and hes so sexy nothing turns me off it's just the hassle of finding a place to go where we don't need to worry about time or anyone walking in
Sorry, I did not want to scare you, just make you think. Running around trying to find places and all of that stuff make things difficult. Some like the thrill of it. I don't, but some do.
perhaps the problem is that you like sex to be spontaneous, but the planning & arrangement needed to actually get together with your guy is taking the edge off your sex drive. next time you see him, promise him a surprise a few days later, send him a photo - a little teaser, phone him the next day & ask him if he liked it, day after send him another pic (maybe a little more revealing) later phone him again to see how he liked that one. idea is to reveal a little more each time & get his reactions, then ask him what he would like the next picture to be, hopefully, not only will it get him as horny as hell, it will arouse you to know that he is looking at you and thinking of you, ask him what he would like to do to you next time you see him ( or tell him what you are going to do to him) - if you are a little shy about revealing yourself on camera, maybe just stick to underwear shots & ask him to pick which one he would like you to wear next time you meet. its just an idea to help you build up a little anticipation in you both, hopefully he will want you so badly the sex will be fantastic & make all the planning seem less of a burden. you could try asking around friends to see if they have a room you could borrow occasionally, just tell them how difficult it is, having parents around all the time. best of luck,
