I've got this friend that I dated for 2 years and have known since I was 14 who likes to hook up with guy friends, which I guess means making out. I don't think she's ever gone to oral on a hook up, but I could be wrong. She has said recently that it's a totally physical thing, and it would be the same kissing me (as we do sometimes(I'm working on that)) as one of her hookup friends. Which seems really (really) weird to me. My question for all of you is: Are she right? Can you make out with people with no emotional attachment?
Maybe it's just me, but it seems like it really devalues a lot of what a relationship is if you just go around making out with people. It's like there's something inherently wrong with it. I could see it if it were like one time and you felt bad about it, but to make it habitual is so incredibly foreign to me. If there's no emotional attachment in kissing, why would there be in the next couple bases? What's so important about sex if kissing is something you can throw around? I'm gonna stop my rant now. Not trying to offend people, I just want to know what is going on in this girl's brain.
Nothing really matters, its only how we perceive it. If you perceive something to be wrong then its wrong to you. That doesn't mean it's wrong for someone else. If morality is a shared construct of what we call normal behavor, then such kissing could be considered immoral by some people, though I really don't see it as that bad - but that doesn't really matter either. You obviously care and it bothers you, so sharing your feelings about it with her would be a place to start. As for her, she's just doing the best she can with whats she's got, like we all are. People have their own motivations and we can only guess as to another person's true intentions. Peace
i know i am not alone in thinking making out is not a big deal. It sounds like you are just hurting because of what you are going through. It sounds like your lady wants to be with you but she thinks someone better could come along. ( I know that hurts to hear, but I am being honest) It sounds like "hooking up" with her is only hurting you. I am not saying I would walk up to a stranger and attack them, but if i want to kiss a friend male or female i am going to do it and I am not going to feel bad about it.
Crazy Kids? Have you forgotten about the generation of free love? You blew respect for young people out of the water.
Making out? No. Sleeping with? Yes. There is absolutely nothing better than sleeping with somebody you absolutely hate.
Obviously i can't speak for all women, but i don't know any who are capable of this, including myself. If i hate someone, there's no way in hell they're touching me.
Wow, really? Can I give the e-mail address of someone I know so that you can convince her to let me fuck her? She's an egotistical, narcissistic little bitch, but she's hot as hell and I'd just love to fuck her raw!
Oh wow, I didn't know this post even existed, and it was initially created when I'd first been active on here, lol. xD Anyway, this is a pretty interesting topic. I personally can't picture myself enjoying hooking up with someone I wasn't even attracted to. In fact, it would disturb my emotions, and I'd most likely be upset by the experience. That's just me, though.
Unless they end up pregnant... In response to the OP: Yeah all physical acts can be done for the pure physical sensation of them without emotional attachment. Intimate physical acts can be like a drug addiction in a way, so sure it's not unheard of. Sometimes it's done out of curiosity, just because young people are exploring. Also, to me if one can do this without emotional attachment of any sort, that could be a red flag they have lack of sympathy-empathy bonding problems.
