Just signed up....first forum I've come across that I feel will suit me...my topic today is (drumroll) SEX! I know, I know...my issue is a puzzling one...I've been living with this girl for over 2 years now...when we first met our sex life was great! But the last 2 years have been anything but...we had sex 3 times last year, July 22nd the last time.One time this year, in January, ...she doesnt work, I support her, we have a great relationship but for some reason she refuses to let me touch her. Let alone have intercourse....we have a wild past together, both ex alcoholics....she plays the sick card a lot...mostly though, she says she cant make love to me until shes sure my heart is pure and I wont leave her.im coming to realize that's an impossible request! I'm fallible...I will always have disagreements and to think we will not is unrealistic....what's really going on here? A little background on me, I'm 56, always getting looks by woman, so I assume im attractive, plus I've been lifting weights since I was 17, so my body is extremely muscular,...I have a lot of woman coming on to me, but I resist because my girlfriend and I are best freinds, except for this one , very important element....I have a higher then average sex drive, so you can imagine my frustration, which leads to anger, depression, you name it.....any ideas? .
Her interest in you has fallen below a 5 out of 10 Complacency happens all the time in long term relationships. When it starts happening, your lady will start giving you clues. If you ignore her clues, she ignores you and you start cascading fast below your original level 10 of attraction from her. You might be able to get her back to a 9 or 10, but like all worth while relationships, alot of hard work will pay off. Good luck to you finding the way back
Thanks for all the input,....women are strange to me sometimes....just when you think you have it figured out....BAM!! Kick to the gonads...as far as the correct forum Dax...you are absolutely correct, this was my first post as a new member, but I wont make that mistake again...Peace to all!!
Your post was acceptable to be in "intros" I would've moved your post if I thought it didn't belong. Good job Luv Luv
Welcome to the forums man. I'm a relatively recent divorcee and when I hit this wall I found no way over so I sadly can't help. Sure you'll find cats here who can however. Anyways enjoy your stay. Peace n love
