Hoping I can channel my suppressed bi desires thru conversations I have found interesting on here. Lot of nice folks. Older guy with later in life curiosity growing more intense. Seems most days I think about it. No one knows, and have a wonderful married life, so happy guy. I have had a few safe light on sex encounters, hoping they would get it out of my system and check that box. It can be a bit frustrating and lonely, but JO and fantasy gets me thru it on the need some release days. I have talked in length with guys in somewhat similar situations, and it does feel great having someone on the other end. Have met couple of those but nothing ongoing came about both in contact and writing each other. I think it's tough for a married guy to find an ongoing very trusted friend who gets it. Can't just can't go out the door a go to town. Sure there are many who relate to all this, maybe even some in Phoenix area. I enjoy talking to guys with shared interest and helping each other coup. That's what I see this forum doing
I'm glad you found this forum interesting, informative, and openly friendly. I think the same of it myself. The "later-in-life" curiosity is very common so I assure you that you are not alone. I was a late bloomer myself only having a handful of encounters prior to acceptance and my comfort level. I think you'll find conversation here quite helpful and honestly open on anything you'd be wanting to ask advise on. A lot of us here have had many, many experiences and are willing to share them with you...Feel free to ask.
Thank you for the encouragement and reaching out. I still am in the acceptance stage, with a few meetups, but really can't shake a very hot desire to have a naked buddy. I can't go for just random one off meetings. Seems very difficult to find one that wants ongoing with some emotional connection. I think that scares most, as they just need a right now fix. And I understand that as it's hard to integrate that into our lives being DL. Sure it's just patience and I'll find my buddy. It is stimulating to read about yours and others experiences...
I found this very relatable! So welcome and you are not alone..I am 40, DL and gave into my bi curiousity a few years back but only a few times and oral experiences only..I am in a relationship as well but the urges and cravings can be so powerful at times..I love my gf and our sex is great, but sometimes I just need something she cant give me....Male intimacy....BUT dont want a meaningless strange one time thing..Id love to find a DL bromance partner who is in a similar situation to experiment further with..Id would love to eventually breach the subject with her and will if we continue dating, but right now Im simply not ready..But the urges dont care about that part, so Id love to find a guy to build a trust bond with and go from there and learn more about myself..
Thank you for reaching out. Wouldn't happen to be in my area would you, lol. You hit it on male intimacy, as I do find it unfulfilling and uncomfortable to have a one off. I want someone to know and appreciate, be supportive, and imagine having great chemistry with. With that we can have wide open trusted experimentation and fulfillment. I would love to give it my all and spoil this lucky guy. Pent up desires will be pushing at the flood gates. How to find one like this that can host and take on a super excited still fit, fresh and GL 55 year old intern...
There are many of us here that can relate to your situation. I’m a 59 yo man with a good marriage. My wife just has zero sex drive since menopause. Finding one guy who was in the same situation as I am and only wanted to to have one guy to mutually fulfill our sexual needs wasn't easy but I did find one. It has taken time to get comfortable and be able to fully trust each other but it has been worth the time investment.
I've had hundreds of "one-time" flings to simply get each other off. But, since my wife and found our present boyfriend three years ago the intimacy, comfort, and fulfillment has made everything we do together so much more enjoyable and meaningful. We've built an excellent relationship with him and have wonderful threesomes together and just last month we all brought his wife into our love life so now we play as four.
I do see there are guys on here who want exclusive friendship. As you say it takes time. Finding someone special and not worrying about being outed and health issues. I have those fears, so I have to go this way and not have one off fun. I want a guy who is able to emotionally let go and just be two that enjoy each other without concern for judgement. Really be into each other with exclusive attention and support. There seems to be road blocks to someone like that. Guys only wanting cock and go, weird aggressive types, those with fake intentions, those who can't communicate more that few sentences. Finding some with a versatile role seems tough too. Thinking I want to experience everything equally, with some real affection. Can only imagine...
Where in PHX? I am in SW area of PHX in the winter. Yes, finding something exclusive seems to be difficult. Being paranoid re. disease, the only thing I would be interested in is something exclusive.
