what are the feelings that are different when you are gay, what is it you feel when u see a man, i mean i can see a guy that i think it is goodlooking and have imagined kissing him before odes that make me gay. mature answers please
Do you want to have sex with him? Do you ever see a woman and want to have sex with her? Do you have fantasies about having sex with either of them, and seriously want to follow through on them? And if so, which gender does that more commonly occur with? I think those would be better tests. And remember Kinsey's continuum. It's common to have varying degrees of homo & hetero urges. If you're close to 50-50, you could be bi.
I'm struggling with my own sexuality but things have started to come up to the surface. It can be a very confusing situation. Homosexuality is a lot more than just whether or not you actually have sex with men. There were many gay men that remained celibate their entire lives but can still be considered gay through their diary entries for example, so you don't necessarily have to engage in it to be considered gay. Do you find yourself staring at parts of a man's body from time to time when you're outside? Sometimes I would look at a guy and I don't even realize it until later and I only figure out later how many times I have done it. Can you watch a gay porn and be excited at what you see? When I watch them, I catch myself comparing their peckers (lol) with mine and I can enjoy both perspectives... Can you get excited by looking at your own naked body and erection? My friend once said that it's so lucky for gay men to be able to look at themselves and get excited, lol. I have also fantasied having sex with my close male friends and I once asked them if I can play around with them =/ I also always felt 'different' when I was younger and always had a certain accent, but it went away as I gotten older. Here is an article that I found interesting. I don't know how true it is but the examples it gives I pass on most of them (Born left handed, index finger longer, hair is shaped differently): http://www.gay-males.org/beachbum/news/gaydar/gaydar.htm Looking back at what I wrote, yeah, I'm probably gay. So if you agree with the things that I have said, and it matches your own experiences, then you're probably gay, brother.
Hey KewlDewd66, Thanks for the reply. I guess it is a matter of perspective. A person actually engaging in sex with the same gender would gain more recognition for being gay than someone who is merely interested in the idea. A person struggling with their sexuality who wants to have sex but refuses for whatever reason is a person I would consider gay. But if they only just show surface interest, and the moment comes and repell the situation, then I would say that their homosexuality is probably not homosexuality but something else. You have a point, many people do that, not just gay men. But I would say that if you're looking at your own member and imagine it not in the point of view of what others would like to see but as you liking it for how it looks, then that can be an indicator. In other words, you look at it and admire it in a sexual way because you recognize the close availability of your desire.
i mean i am currently with a girl now and really enjoy being with her, but this has being going on for many years now 24/7 sexual thoughts about men, i mean i take anti depressants for ocd, but i am looking at men to see how i feel, i am looking and going well he is goodlooking then will imagine having sex with them to see how it feels, at first i feel like no it wasnt for me, but no i feel so relaxed with it all. I have being thinking everyday like this for the past 7 years i became so bad with all the thought every day i had to seea therapist. My mum and dad know all about this aswell, my thoughts etc. i go on gay porn to see how i feel all the time, to see if i like it and it doesnt disgust em anymore like it use to. quite frankly it looks very easy to do etc. but i dont thinki want that lifestyle and would have the romantic feelings (please explain what romantic feelings are?) its just the sex that seems to be on my mind every day of my life.
