I'm considering dating a guy with genital herpes, I don't have herpes. I was hoping for some real life practical advice. These questions are directed towards a person with experiences in relationships where 1 person had herpes and the other didn't. Did you refrain from sex during an outbreak? If the sores have healed but the spots are still red from a scar healing, is it still contagious? I heard that even during an outbreak, even if a condom is used it's pointless because the virus is always spread from the base of the shaft. Is that true? Any other tips, advice, game plans would be much appreciated.
sounds like a really bad idea, if you don't want herpes. If you're okay with herpes, thats fine. If you're not, you can still assume it's very likely you'll get it, and he probly won't last forever, but herpes will.
Yeah, if you choose to be with this guy, you should assume you'll get it. Its up to you though, follow your heart.
A tad off topic but I recently read that 1 in 4 women have the herps, yet roughly 80% of people who have it don't know they have it due to a lack of symptoms. This leads me to believe that a lot of people who think they are clean actually have it without knowing it. Not that it pertains to your decision, but it was very illuminating to me.
I don't have symplex 2(genital) I do have sympex 1(oral), most call them cold sores or fever blisters but it is herpes. I have had it since I was a teen and have been married since 88 and never has my wife caught it from me. Im very carefull and do not kiss or go down on her untill it is completely healed. I would stay away from a case of genital....much worse, I wouldn't want to take that chance.
Expect to get it. You dont need to have symptoms to catch it. It could flair up days before and be contagous before the outbreak occurs. Im lucky enough to be in a relationship where we both have it. If I was single I wouldnt bother picking anyone up to prevent spreading it. It does get better over the years but its not something Id wish on anyone.
My question on this topic is: Can a child be born with herpes (complex 1 or 2 or both), just because their mother had it in her bloodstream? And let's face it birthing is messy.
