Advice/ opinions please! Two weekends ago my youngest brother, who is 15, asked if I would get a hotel room for his girlfriend (16) and him. They have been going out for two years and he said he wanted to make their first time something special. I said no stating that he was two young and I didn't want to be put in that position. After much pleading on his part and thinking on mine (hell, I was fourteen), I went ahead and rented the room for him. I saw him a couple of days later and he just smiled and said "Thank you, he would never forget it". I don't know if I should have done it though. My folks are fairly open minded but I don't think they would understand if they found out about this. The real problem is me being a parent and how what I did just seems wrong now. I told my wife about it and she wasn't real pleased with me saying that I should have just let them deal with it with out my help. Did I do wrong?
Nope! At least his first time wasn't at home, under your parents roof; the chances of getting caught there could've been worse!
What a cool bro. Now just don't put yourself in a situation like that again. Would suck to hear him say he will never forget it since they have a baby on the way or something worse! Just think of it from the perspective of the girls Dad and might make it easier next time. Cool brothers are worth their weight in gold and he is lucky.
We have had many conversations about using condoms, STD's teen parents .... So I knew he was covered there. I defenitly wouldn't do it again. He can do it in a car, secret place at school like I did from now on.
Hey he is your brother I assume you used your best judgement and you must of thought he was mature enough to handle himself and if he doesn't regret anything then you did something good for him you shouldn't beat yourself up to much.....
You know Iron Goth, for some reason, thats the least of my worries about this situation. It sounds like most people in this forum break a few laws daily!!
You kind of look like a bit of a pushover. It appears the gut instinct awnser of "no" was correct in this situation. I guess mabey im being harsh. I know the situation you were put into. As soon as i turned 18, my cousins (15) hit me up for cigars. I dont know i guess whatever floats your boat. Just make suure to set limits and stick to them.. I dont know what your relationship is, so im just going to shut up. Yeah, he definantly owes you though, thats pretty cool.
Well. I don't know if you made a mistake that time. It would be a mistake to be unprepared when he asks the next time. Talk with your wife and decide what to say the next time.