today my girlfriend came over. we both talked about having sex and we both wanted to. still do. we are both 16 and virgins...and there were some embarrassing problems that occurred.(my mom wasnt expected home for 4 hours so we werent worried about that). one problem was i couldnt keep the erection. whyd that happen? everytime i thought i was good to go again, it would wilt down. very disappointing...another, is when i was actually...erected...enough to go in, i couldnt go in! my penis just wouldnt go in past the head for some reason...i pushed and she went down opr whatever to try and make it work, but it didnt. but i know i was in a bit cause i felt the fluid on my pneis. why couldnt i go in you think? so after all that we didnt even gert to have sex and we're both still virgins. its kind of embarassing. but plz help
Try a bit of foreplay 1st....Go down on her to try and relax her! As for you not retaining a boner, you can maybe put that down to nerves!
we did do the foreplay...we was makin out a whole lot and she went down my pants and i had a boner like a full on boner i thought i was gonna be able to keep, and i kept it for the most part when she took off her clothes but when penetration time came....it just wilted... but i dont think she was too ready anyways, she (at first) was covering her boobs with her arm and when i locked the door she had her arms around her legs/knees. she kept claiming she wanted to do it thoug.h hmmm?
stress/nerves is probably what killed your hardone. it happens, not the end of hte world. as for the penetration thing, try spreading her lips a little bit - the outer ones can sometimes sit in such a way as to make penetration difficult . basically, spread her vulva/pussy a bit (not enough to hurt her of course) and see if that helps. dont forget lube if shes a little dry then, it can help tremendously
You needed to use more force. If a girl hasnt had sex before her cervix is really small and not big enough for a penis to go in so you have to force it in. Thats why it hurts really bad for a girl when they first have sex. One of my old friends sister had this thing where she didnt even have a cervix so she can never have sex. Im not saying your girlfriend has that but it could be a possability. Next time try using some lube or something to make it slide in easier. It will help out a lot. I hope everything works out for you because sex is the best thing anyone will ever experience when its between two people who love eachother very much. Goodluck.
We'll first off, I'm gonna say USE A CONDOM. if you are already, pat yourself on the back. If not, get one. Other than that, don't stress it buddy. The limp noodle is because of the nerves. It sounds like you both want to, but aren't necesarily in the right situation and mindset. It'll come(literally) with time
yeah real cool....loser anyways, try relaxing...nerves of a first sexual experience are like that. Just relax..and maybe try and get off before she comes over so your not so tense. And foreplay (for her)...thats key. It will loosen her up quite a bit after a short while. Dont worry man, this happens to like almost every dude on this side of the mississippi
It is called "performance anxiety"- you are both virgins, you were worried about your mother surprising you, and you are not sure how to do it. My advice - take it easy, go slow. You are playing an adult game now, and have the rest of your life to learn how to do it right, and enjoy God's gift to you. Remember, sexual pleasure is the reward you get for trying to make babies, and you are not ready for that yet. It will come to you when you are ready for it, and you clearly are not.
