Help, Still In Love.......

Let me sound like the broken record as always, but I am seriously needing some kind of breakthrough advice here, something that hasn't been stated already 5,000 times. Many of you know, but for those that don't, I fell in love with someone over a year ago, someone from this very forum. We were very close for awhile, which was great, and we talked about moving in together, and making all kinds of plans for the future. I really thought we would spend the rest of our lives together. Call me the hopeless romantic, I guess.

Anyway, we broke up, a year ago in February to be exact. I went through some pretty rough ties following that, which I would prefer not to rehash now, but a few of you already know the details anyway.

Well, I got through all that, I regained my senses a bit, and I have been focusing on my studies and business and other things lately alot better. But I still thing of her often. And to be honest, it is a bit more than just thinking of her casually, that should be expected, but I am still in love with her, and always have been. I would give anything to know how she is doing, that she's doing alright, even if we didn't work things out for good. I just miss her, more than I ever thought possible.

Our circumstances make it nearly impossible to communicate. And although I have not tried to contact her for many months, I am afraid she would prefer that I don't. I don't know for sure, I just believe that it would complicate things further for her, which I never wanted to do.

I really just wanted us both to be happy, and I made my share of mistakes along the way, I know. We both did. I just wish I could go back in time and show her how I felt. I told her constantly, maybe too much, but I wasn't the best at actually demonstrating that emotion clearly. To be honest, I get emotional when it comes to being in love, and I complicate everything so much.

But enough of blaming myself, I just want to know, will it ever get easier? Because I always thought it would, but after a year has passed without even hearing her voice, it still hurts. I don't know, I just don't know.

 

I didn't bother reading your post, but I want you to take my advice anyway:

Find something other than romance that makes you exceptionally happy, and get over your heartache by doing everything that you possibly can to move on.

 

And this is the same advice I usually give everyone else, but now it seems almost impossible. It's hard to describe the bond that I feel was broken in my life, she was a very big part of my world. I have plenty of other things going for me, but I always had hoped to share those things with her.

 

Fuck it man. Romance is pain. Start chain-smoking. Drink at 11 in the morning. Let yourself be lonely if that's what it takes to be free.

I've never gotten girls, especially the one I spent four years trying to get. It doesn't get better, but it gets easier.

 

Honestly, you're going to get over her. So I wouldn't waste your time worrying about it too much. It always gets better with time.

 

well wait, did you guys actually meet?


or did it stay an online thing?

 

Hahahaha I didn't read your post but.... :lol:

 

So I'm blaring Fallout Boy in the background right now, jammin out and it's actually making me feel a little better. hah. It's funny how the little things make such a big difference sometimes. Still, it's only a temporary fix.

 

You're only 22. You've got plenty of life to look forward to - and even life that doesn't revolve around romance.

 

Breaking up is just like a hangover, as soon as you start having you next Beers you begin to forget all about it

 

Heartbreak is the insanity of nonacceptance. Accept happiness instead and move on.

 

or he can just really be in love with her and not meant to move on.

most of the times its not like that. but maybe they really are supposed to be together.

 

True but almost any two people can be happy together if they each really wanted to make it work. No need to force a square peg into a round hole if there are plenty of other great people in the world.

 

maybe they both do fit together.

its possible that they actually do love eachother and they arent forcing anything, just circumstances got in the way.

besides, i dont believe any two people can be happy together if they really wanted. america is an example of that. hence the divorce rate.

 

Possible. But like in a missile silo, both people need to turn their keys to launch. If one decides not to turn his/her key, the other can fret about it but what's the use?

You're right, by that statistic maybe almost no two people can be happy together. lol

 

We did love each other, but we had so many issues to work through, neither one of us is really that good with being part of a "couple," and that got in the way alot. There were also alot of family issues that came along that slowed things, which I (wrongly) blamed her for. Now I know it wasn't her fault, but it's too late.

 

well i didn't bother reading your advice but here's my opinion on it....


joking.. i did read it... but i have to say it's kind of retarded...

if you love someone, nothing else is going to make you exceptionally happy... the best you can do is try to forget they exist, but it won't work. it's just something you have to put up with for a while at least...

 

how come its nearly impossible to get in contact with her?


and why was it hard to be a couple?

 

i'm saying maybe they both did try and loved eachother. And sometimes worrying or thinking about what to do, does make things better. atleast it shows effort.

statisticly speaking, lots of things seem impossible. But I see people prove statistics wrong, so statistics in my mind are useless for me. I'll love/do what i want, no matter the odds against it.

 

That is the basic quality of both heroes and fools.