Help plz! my gf has never orgasmed :(

2 problems:

1.so ive been with my gf for couple yrs now. she's never orgasmed b4. i know she likes having sex with me, and our relationship is great except i wish i could make her cum . i tried fingering her, oral, gspot stimulation etc. as well. when i finger her she gets really wet and she loves it but then she says she feels a lot of pressure and isn't sure what to do and always says shes nervous and doesn't know what to do, she likes it up all to that point, and then she will tell me to stop and says she needs time to breath and doesn't konw waht to do but it feels good but she feels like peeing/almost pain/pressure?

2.also i don't exactly last the longest, i find her really tight and have trouble lasting more than couple minutes usually, but sometimes we can go for a lot longer, im not sure how to delay it.

any comments and help would be more than appreciated

 

Buy Her A New Set Of Batteries

For Her Vibrator, Then Nick Off Down To The Pub To Watch The Footie On The Big Screen,

And Have A Cold Beer With Your Mates....

Problem Solved...:2thumbsup:.



Cheers Glen.

 

we tried a vibrator and she's tried using it and she just doesn't know waht to do after it feels good, she gets nervous and says it hurts but sometimes its just pressure and not pain, while sometimes seh feels liek peeing and she'll go to the washroom...
also i want to learn how i can do it myself regardless

 

My girlfriend was the same way at first with the pressure thing. Your girlfriends urge to pee/pressure is the sign she's about to cum really fucking hard, maybe even squirt. Next time that happens don't listen to her, hold her down and go even harder. That's what I do and it works everytime. When she asks for you to stop because it's too intense that's when you should increase intensity and make her cum. Obviously if she legit wants you to stop you should, but don't immediately listen to her. If you get her to squirt (and you're the first to do so) she's going to think you're amazing. Honestly your girlfriend sounds like a squirter for sure. My current gf is the same way.

What technique do you use for fingering? I found the best way is to insert your index and middle fingers and make a hook shape like you're telling someone to come here. Don't just go straight in and out but vary it by putting pressure upwards or downwards while you're going in and out. Use your thumb to rub her clit while you're doing this. Suck on her nipples or bite her neck while fingering. Variation is key here.

The build up leading to penetration is a huge factor in being able to achieve orgasm for a lot of women. Spend a good 30 mins getting her nice and horny. Try some new things like nibbling at her neck or biting hard if she's into it. Pull her hair back and start sucking on her neck. Take control over her and be spontanious. Try using a blindfold or having sex in complete darkness, or tying her arms/legs to the bed posts. All of my past girlfriends have liked it when I insert my thumb or a finger into their ass while we're doggy style. Basically just be a tease and take control. Don't be afraid to try new things and communicate with her.

If you don't last very long it's even more important that you become the master of foreplay. If you know you can't last long enough for her to cum make sure she's satisfied and "had hers" before goin in. Take your head out of the game, think about something else, something that turns you off. Bite your lip or pinch yourself to take your mind off cumming. Alcohol reduces sensitivity but also make it more challenging to keep hard. Antidepressants will make you last way longer but can have some nasty side effects.

I'm not sure how old you are but practice makes perfect. The more sex you have the longer you'll last. A good thing to remember is to not be overly worried/obsessive about satisfying your partner. Yes you should aim to satisfy but don't forget to have some fun yourself.

 

thx for the reply, really appreciate it! well when i finger her i use my ring and mid finger and just go up and down like 'spiderman'. sometimes when i keep going she tell me to hold her legs b/c she can't keep still or like will squeeze my arm and moan but then she its frsutrating b/c she's never had a clitoral orgasm either? i can tell she gets really enjoys it and starts to moan and twist and turn and then all of a sudden she'll just blurt out things like 'what do i do' or 'wait no' it feels weird and i dont want her to get hurt so i listen, and then the enxt time hse'll tell me not to listen to her and keep going it seems to be a repeating thing.

yeah i sometimes can last longer, but sometiems i just get super horny after not seeing her for awhile, it just feels so good that i kind of know im going to cum but lose control, am not sure how some guys last longer or how or what to think to get out of that sort of mindset if u know what im saying. lately ive been trying to think of soemthing else or just focus on her and not the feeling and its been working. but i was wondering what other ideas u could give me.

she keeps telling me that she still enjoys having sex with me and she initiates it more than me since im usually caught up with work etc. but i want her to be able to feel the way i do when i cum b/c she knows how to get me off!

 

Hmm well I'll try to describe it as best I can. You know when you're inside your gf and you tense up your cock? It's the same movement as a kegel exercise (look into that if you haven't heard of it before). Basically when you're inside her and it feels really good you tens up and force more blood into your dick. This obviously feels great and causes you to cum faster. Try to not tense up at all. Just go through the motions and take your mind off of it. Look at a wall or whatever you have to do. Cleanching your butt is also a good way to stop yourself from cumming.

Have you tried talking dirty to her before? That can really get her going. If you haven't done it before you may feel a bit silly at first but just be confident and I guarantee she'll love it. Maybe even practice a few lines alone so you know what you're going to say.

 

Don't worry about putting too much pressure. And distract her. When she says she feels like she's about to pee just squeeze her tight against you. Massage her tits, suck on her collar bone. And push on that gspot. It's like breaking the hoover dam.

 

I'm certain that you are very close to making her orgasm. Go for it with your tongue and don't stop. It may take a while, but she will get there.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Like the exam questions at school, the answer is in the question! :2thumbsup: