Help! Newly intimate couple in need of advice.

I am an 18 year male and I'm dating a 16 year old girl and we have decided to abstain from sex until marriage. Both of us are virgins and neither of us have performed any sort of intimate activity besides cuddling and restrained sexual touching.

Very recently my girlfriend and I were cuddling and it ended up evolving into grinding. This went on for a while and later we found out that I had ejaculated into my pants. She discovered some of the stuff on her pants as well. We were both quite disgruntled as we had never had any form of similar experiences in the past. We aren't sure how to address this situation as we have heard this sort of thing can potentially lead to impregnation. Any information would be helpful, as we are both inexperienced dealing with these matters.

 

Sperm doesn't live long outside the human body. It was on the outside of her pants, so no worries.

 

Sperm needs to meet egg to make a baby . Out side of the girls body dosent make a baby . I learned this in h.s. health and drivers ed. ( early 70s ) Maby they dont teach that any more .

 

She won't get pregnant.

 

they taught that in driver's ed? i guess car sex used to be more common than i realized.

 

As it has been over 40 years ago I dont remember exact details , but we were taught a basic idea of how the human body worked . S.T.D.s were included . As it was titled health and driver ed. driving was included . I dont remember a discussion of car sex being included in the class . A guy once asked me if I had used my p.u. seat as a work bench( a service truck) , it took me a bit to figure out what he meant .

 

Unfortunately, the religious right is controlling sex ed in some places so youngsters don't get the information they need. They think they can prevent teens from having sex, yet the states that preach (yes preach) abstinence only (without mentioning birth control etc.) have the highest rates of teen pregnancy. I wonder why that is....

When I taught middle school, when we got to the section about reproduction, I let the kids ask whatever question they wanted as long as they used the correct term (Penis/Vagina) not (cock,pussy). If they were shy, they could write notes and I would answer the question the next day in class. I never had a more attentive class than when we were talking about sex. And it wasn't anything weird. They just wanted to know because no one else was willing to tell them.

I always made sure we stuck to the curriculum so I wouldn't get in trouble for you know, teaching. But there was always a risk the kids would mention something and a parent would get all bent out of shape and cause problems. In that case, I would be thrown under the bus because Administrators are weak.

I remember when I was in high school, some (idiotic) parent wanted "I Know why the Caged Bird Sings" by Maya Angelou banned because she talks about her rape as a child. They didn't even read the book but got all upset about it. I thought it was a great book and admired her for the way she dealt with it (in life and in the book.) Some people!

 

my schooling included sex ed in elementary school, did not get drivers ed until high school

 

In 7 th grade the teacher handed out pics. of sex organs , but took them back , I guess so the kids could not make silly pics of them . It was like a 1 day class. As I stated health and driver ed. was h.s.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internal_fertilization
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Insemination

 

I loved teaching sexual reproduction because during those classes, even the crassest kids would watch their vocabulary. They were so mature because if they didn't behave, the discussion would end and they didn't want to be responsible for that.

So sad that sex is everywhere in society (ads, movies, internet), yet we can't teach our kids the basics. Pathetic!

 

Hard to give advice on a topic like this. Far as the sperm thing goes, don't worry, there's no risk other than your mum doing your laundry and discovering it...

That said I'm never going to tell anyone how to live their life but I will say this decision to wait and abstain sounds pure and great on paper but one could also argue these are the most sexually active years of your life, and you are going to throw it all away for someone who you "might" marry some day. People change so much in their twenties and I don't believe in marrying young for that reason. But then again I don't look at marriage like a simple "well if it doesn't work I'll just get divorced" kind of thing. So in the end I'm probably not the best advice giver in that I believe waiting only robs yourself of what you could have had, but then again if you've never had it then I guess you don't know what you're missing either, so to each their own I guess...

 

Practically what everyone else said...She can not get pregnant from that.