Help me go barefoot at home in front of my mother and sister

I really want to go barefoot at home. I love doing it when I am alone. But I've not been able to go barefoot at home or even in my stocking feet since I was very young. I get embarrassed even if I think about bringing it up. I'd be so scared to hear what they would say if I just took off my shoes and socks. But I want to go barefoot sooooooooo badly in front of them and at home. Can anyone help me accomplish this feat? (No pun intented!)
Mike

 

Heya Mike, maybe start somewhere else where nobody feels provoced - away from the tight family situation. Other than that, don't let them push your buttons.

There's plenty of advice here on this forum too. People go through all kinds of strange things (with or without shoes).

Take care

 

You're not allowed to be bare foot? Strange.

 

I think you need to gain some self-confidence and be proud.
Your age would kinda help.... but anyway...
Since this is a problem with family, you need to gain that confidence and muster up the courage to confront them. Tell them this is about you, something you like. It is a lifestyle change, and they should be able to accept you.... they are family.
If they don't understand, it is their loss because you will have done the right thing.

 

I can understand your feelings, I felt EXACTLY the same way! When I was 15 I had a girlfriend who I would go barefoot in her house even when her parents were home. I used to think, "aren't you embarrassed walking around like that?". Of course I never really did ask her that question, but I always did envy her to be able to do that.

Let me ask you this, how comfortable are you going barefoot in front of non family members? What about your sister, does she go barefoot at home? What would you do if say your sister came home unexpectedly and caught you in your barefeet????

I'm also curious how you arrived at these feelings, did anyone make fun of you going barefoot when you were younger?

Sorry for asking too many questions, again I've experienced the same problem as you have. It's nice to hear that I'm not alone regarding this subject.

 

Uh... we go barefoot in our house all the time. I never heard of anyone having a problem with it. Is your family really that uptight? It's usually going barefoot outside the home that people feel strangely about.

 

I agree, it is very strange

I'm barefoot 99% of the time, it's colder than a witches teet here and I'm still barefoot....

the only time I ever put socks on, is for this one pair of boots because they hurt my little toe...and when I go to my pseudo grandma's house cause she's insane, I dont even really have to put socks on to go there because she buys slippers from the dollar store for guests to wear....can we say anal?

 

My grandmother does the same thing. She's always bitching about bare feet in her house, and gives us all slippers to wear. Doesn't matter if it's summer or winter. It's so funny.

 

try starting off walking arouind in socks, then when you feel comfortable, try flip flops/sandals without socks (cuz you are not "really" barefoot) then once comfortable with that then start slipping off the flip flops and eventually you'll be walking around barefoot and being confident about it.

above all, take it slow and at a pace that is comfortable for you.

peace and good luck Mike

 

Based on my history, I'd say just go for it!

Okay, maybe that sounds insensitive, but I'm basing it on my own experience and the minimal information provided.

You say you want to be barefoot in front of your mother and your sister. Are they barefoot often? It seems like a lot of females shed their shoes willingly and pad around the house. If so, your going barefoot may not even raise an eye. It may just be an issue of getting the courage to try. You may just get a comment or two and that will be it.

On the other hand, it could be a more confrontive situation; that's what I encountered. When I was a kid in the 60's, all the kids my age were barefoot in the summer. When I read your post I reflected on my childhood and really can't think of any of the kids who I didn't see running up and down the street barefoot at various time. No flip-flops - bare soles on bare ground. Sure they'd put on shoes for various activities, but all my friends spent a significant portion of their summer playing barefoot - both boys and girls.

I was always a bit envious of my barefoot friends. My parents didn't encouage me to be barefoot, and I was a bit self-conscious about my feet. On one occasion I heard my dad tell a friend of his how my "feet were messed-up." Not a good confidence builder. I envied the freedom my friends experienced.

When I was in my mid-to-late teems, I decided I was just going to go for it. I just started walking around the house barefoot one day. My parents started teasing me about it. They didn't just tease me to my face, but they mentioned it to friends and family in the course of conversation as if it was something to be ashamed of. My family is fairly disfunctional and can be very stubborn. I realized that if I really wanted to be barefoot, I just had to stand my ground. No, I didn't argue, I just stayed barefoot around the house, Over months, things finally got more comfortable with my parents. I wasn't a public barefooter at the time, but I at least was okay with it around the house and the immediate area outside.

About 30 years later, I had surgery to correct bunions on my feet. I'm now an avid public barefooter. I think I'm just making up for the time I missed when I was a kid.

Hang in there. Have courage. If it's important to you, you'll find a way.

 

It wouldn't even occur to me that I was doing it whilst inside at home.
It's pretty much pot-luck if I put on a pair of socks around the house.
I don't think anyone in my family would notice one way or the other.

Give it a try early morning, they'll just assume you you're not dressed yet. Then introduce it in ever-increasing increments

 

I hope you will forgive me if I ask a question that seems stupid or ignorant. It may help to clarify that I have difficulty understanding your situation. When I was growing up, shoes were only for Church and School... and later (as I turned 7-8) for stores too. The idea of wearing shoes at home or in the yard is completely different from how I was brought up. Even to this day, I remove the shoes by the door and put them on when I am going out and I ask my guests to leave theirs by the door as well.

Anyway, that is my background... so please keep in mind that your experiences aren't something I find easy too associate with. If I sound silly... or ignorant... forgive it as wonder and an attempt to understand.

First, you never have barefeet around the house? Not even in your bedroom?

Do you sleep with socks on?

What do you believe will happen if you are seen barefoot around the house? What is the most likely scenario and what is your nightmare scenario?

Have you ever been reprimanded for not wearing shoes (at home, in the yard, or elsewhere)? When did this happen? Where did it happen? How old were you? And what exactly happened (what was said, done, etc)?

What places or times do you know of where it is acceptable to be barefoot with your family?

I don't know of anything else... at this moment. And sorry if that sound weird.

Without answer to some of these, I have to give my default reaction of "just do it." But, obviously that might not be right for your situation. And I admit to not being in it.

I wouldn't be ashamed of being barefoot though. It's comfortable and nice.

 

I am so grateful that so many have replied to my post. I do in fact wish to go barefoot at home around others. Let me fill you in. I used to go barefoot all the time when I was young....before school age. Then I think when we were out shopping, I was being a pain and begging to go ride a llama in the mall parking lot (part of a show that was there). I was finally allowed but felt guilty for begging. When we got home, I got undressed and was lying on the recliner. I had to go to the bathroom and I had an erection. My mother made me try on the pants we bought, and yes, I was barefoot. This might have made me embarrassed to go barefoot.

Through out the years, I would take off my shoes and socks at home when everyone left. But I couldn't do it for long without getting very nervous and being self-arouses sexually. When I got my first apartment, I started going barefoot there more. It was hard but I pushed myself. I used to get very nervous, and I could not act normally. I couldn't study or even do normal tasks without thinking of being barefooted. Over time (years), I was able to go barefoot in my apartments. I couldn't let anyone else see me barefoot though. Then I used to walk outside where others would walk by. I hid my shaking and slowly got more used to it. Eventually, I was able to go barefoot all the time in my apartment. I am still uncomfortable letting others see me, especially men or older women. I like to be barefoot around attractive women.

One person who responded suggested I start going with only socks on. I have trouble doing that at home too. It feels as though I am naked or something. When I'm alone, I don't like to wear socks only. I think they are going to get dirty or something. I sleep in my barefeet. But only wear briefs. I used to be able to wear pajamas and go without socks or slippers. Now I couldn't even do that. Haven't worn pajamas for years. When I get dressed, I put on my socks first. Then I put on my pants, one leg at a time, putting my foot in my shoe right away. So I am never with pants on and barefoot. I can go into my room and close the door and get ready for bed by taking my shoes and socks off first. I am nervous though. And everyone has to be asleep. I have tried to be at my computer desk which is in a room off of my bedroom. I have taken off my shoes and socks for a little time there. But it is hard. I know that taking one small step at a time might work. But it seems so hard. I'd love to do it all at once. If I could only bring myself to suggest it to my mother that it is something I would like to try to see what it feels like. But I bet I'd be nervous.

I dream alot about going barefoot. Sometimes, it is at home but in hiding. My mother used to go barefoot alot. My sister is barefoot all the time. My dad used to go in his stocking feet. Why am I so different? I just want to be able to go barefoot. I have even gone into a bar barefooted. But I can't do it at home. Or maybe I should say, I haven't been able to do it yet! There is still hope, I hope!
Mike

 

You may want to see if there are any barefooters in your area and start hanging out with them. Go on hikes, etc.. Spend time with those that are understanding and comfortable with themselves. Their confidence will rub off and you'll be much better equipped to deal with and eventually transcend your pediphobia.

Check out barefooters.org for more information about potential groups in your area.

 

Ahha! Ok, I'm no psychologist, but I think you are having this conflict due to equating your barefeet as a sexual object. You may have had an erection because you were barefoot at the time, thus finding it sexually stimulating. Therefore, you do not wish to go barefoot in front of your mother and sister due to believing that being barefoot is somehow part of an overall sexual activity. Appearing barefoot anywhere sounds like your privacy will be violated. Correct?

Do you have a foot fetish? You stated you like being barefoot around attractive women.

 

I think that seems logical to me why I have had difficulty going barefoot through life. I relate it to the erection. I would generally get an erection when I took off my shoes and socks (and even just shoes) when I was younger. I over came that. Yes, I love going barefoot and I love seeing a pretty woman barefoot. Having long pants on is a big part of it too. I don't really feel as if I'm being sexual. Maybe I am. I just wish I could get over it and go barefoot here. As I write this, I am barefoot with a pair of jeans on. I slipped them on when my mother and sister went out today.

 

Dude!!! If you got nice feet, go bare! They are the weirdos if they ALWAYS wear socks and shoes in the house. If you're that worried about it, take small steps. G bare in your room, then around the house. when the weather warms up, go bare outside. Can you hang out with any of your buddies bare? Do any of them go bare? Maybe it wouldn't be such a big deal if you all hung out bare together to get your onfidence up.....

 

I even have trouble going barefoot in my room. Don't have many friends to hang with not to mention go barefoot with. One friend of mine that I used to go barefoot around and then stopped, well, I've started to take off my shoes and socks, but only after I get back from going out to the bar. I feel like a prisioner in a way. Need to have a good friend, even to just chat with online to talk me into it some night, etc.

 

Do you mean that you have trouble with being barefoot all by yourself in a locked room? If so, then it sounds like you don't even like your own feet.

Confused.

 

Aah, this makes more sense now. :B
You know, probably no one will notice if you just do it, even your family members. Especially if you start with just socks. (Or slippers or thongs or something) Just think about how normal and unnoticeable it is if you get nervous.

I used to wear long sleeved shirts AAAAALLLLLLLL the time when I was a kid, and one day I decided to wear a tee shirt. I was really nervous at first. I felt like I was wearing underwear or something. But of course, no one said a thing.

I've got a couple other things that make me unnecessarily nervous, mostly because I have them linked to sex in my mind, (I have a couple unusual fetishes... not that the shirt thing was related to sex..) but they're just regular things to other people.