help i cant get aroused

at all, i dont even know if i ever have been can someone please help as the usual ways just dont work on me at all, my husband is at a total loss what to do now and we are at the end of our tether nothing is working at all helppease someone must know what to do

 

depending upon age, hormone levels may play a role in this problem

 

Are you able to turn yourself on? Do you masturbate? (You don't have to answer that)

My point is, you have to know your own body before you can expect someone else to know your body.

 

well im 44 had my hormones cheked and they are normal , i dontknow what being turned on is so the answer is no i dont turn myself on either, i have tried jacking off but cant even do that or feel anything from trying when trying i feel no differently than now typing this here with my family around me inand out the house

 

I don't mean to sound alarmist or anything, but you definitely need help beyond what some forum can offer. I'm sure someone can do something, look into sex therapists and such. Maybe there are drugs that can be prescribed to boost libido. I wish you the best of luck.

 

So you feel no sensation whatsoever when touching or being touched down there? Does kissing do anything for you?

 

nothing more than the touching of our mouths does, its simply that

when he does the touching elsewhere its painful feeling everywhere he touches, genitally speaking, breasts feel little to nothing either

 

Painful?

Wow. I'd definitely talk to a doctor about this.

 

Witch

 

i have been to the doctors many times over this and they just wont/cant help at all

 

Then find a better doctor. They should at the very least be able to offer up an idea of what might be causing it.

 

You need to go to a doctor that only works in this kind of area, have you had sex with anyone else?

 

Please accept my sympathy. I feel just as sorry for your husband. Have you tried getting a third party involved? Does kinky sex arouse you at all? The suggestion that you seek professional help is a good one.

I just read your other posts. If doctors can't help, even the psychiatric types, you need to accept the fact that sex is an overblown subject in modern America and Great Britain. Many people live celibate lives through their own choosing. Try not to be frustrated with your body as it is. Your husband has to decide if sex is that important that he cannot continue his marriage. With three kids I would think he could. Why don't you help him find another woman interested in sex with him, and accept that he has to satisfy himself this way. It isn't conventional, but then it isn't unknown either. Men can love two women at once, believe me. Gawd. Now I feel bad that I enjoy sex so much. Wish I could transfer some of the feeling to you.

 

but thats the point i dont know what being arousd is do i?

 

no i have never had sex with anyone else

 

as for getting another doctor here in the uk it really isnt that simple,

 

I can tell you. It is when you want to fuck, suck, lick, fondle, or otherwise engage in a sexual activity so much you get a specific taste in your mouth and your limbs quiver, or some variation of this. It can be less pressing or intense than described. If this doesn't ever happen you're frigid beyond what I have ever heard.

Check what I added to my earlier post.

 

Dress up, go out dancing with your girlfriends and enjoy the looks from guys, might get you off

Get in touch with your feminity (sorry had some drinks not sure how to spell any longer), your sexuality by buying sexy lingerie, reading erotic stuff. Get a porno and watch it, just relax and look at yourself naked in the mirror. I don't know, that;s about it for my advice..

 

lok i habe sex with him ok, if it wasnt for the help of lube then i dontknow what i would do, but i can tell you that i feel no differently sat here as when we are doing things in the bedroom, i can take it or leave it at any point in time, i want to want sex but it just dosent seem to work on my body

 

i dont have any friends to go out with, the last time i went anywhere was on the 26 th feb this year with my husband as it was our anniversary, i dont read i dont watch tv i dont watch porn and i cant stand the bloody mirrors in this house.