My wife once told me she was "a little" bi-curious. She has kissed and felt up one of her friends many years ago. When we first started dating she also asked me if I would like to watch her with another girl. At the time I said no - dont ask me why - I regret it every day. But over the years, and now that we are married, this is something I would LOVE to introduce to our sex life. The topic has come up a few times over the years, but my wife says "it was just a phase." I dont really believe that. I dont see how that is possible - either you are attracted to other women or you're not right? Is this just wishful thinking on my part or should I believe her? I would love to see her with another woman. I have not been pushy about it, but she knows I like seeing 2 women together (we've watched porn), and she loved it too. I told her if it was something she wanted to explore that I thought I would be hot. She ended up changing the subject. So, can I ask - and im hoping for feedback from other women who may have experienced the same kind of thing in their marraige/relationships with men, how to explore and open up. At this point I would even like to see her with another man if she wanted to. Ultimately I would like us both to watch each other and enjoy other people. But at the very least, I would like her to embrace any desires to play with another girl. Any advice? By the way, our sex life has not been very good for a few years now. I dont know if this factors into your opinions.
Maybe you should work on your sex life with her first. Maybe if she feels more secure within your own sexual relationship she would be more willing to try it. I think adding other people when your own sex life is struggling might not be a great idea. Maybe she is feeling insecure about it and feels like she isn't enough and that's why you are wanting to add someone else to the mix.
