Well hi there, this is my first venture into this forum and I was hoping I could get some honest, unbiased opinions I've been married for almost eleven years to a man that I love very dearly...though it's a constant struggle. I like a challenge most of the time so that's just fine with me. For the last Ten years I've kinda sat back and let My hubby have his way playing more of an observer curious to see where he would take us. Lately I've decided it was time for me to jump back in and start doing my thing but I am meeting much resistience. I've always been a 'one of the guys' kinda girl. There is a rare breed of girl that I get along with but they are hard to find, so I find my self in the company of men most of the time. The hubby does'nt take to this very well and gets really pissy about the whole thing. I've never given him reason to doubt my integrity in regards to the relationship nor do I intend to. What I'm wondering is am I being a dick by being myself, or should i be more considerate of his feelings and have only girl friends...I invite him to join me but he never wants to do anything with me. He says I need to find more 'normal' activities, lol, I told him if he wanted normal he married the wrong girl I just do what interests me at the time. I can't keep stuffing myself...I'm starting to atrophy. So what do you think??!
just look at what you have written, think about how you feel... of course you're being reasonable, he needs to accept and trust, as i'm sure you do him. try and give each other freedom, but also spend loving and good times together, so that you remain strong. try to explain yourself to him, explain what you want, and find what he wants. keep up the comunication, trust and love...it'll work out and be fine, so don't worry too much about it
Well, guess i'm damn lucky - i've never really had much in common with girls either, since i don't get my hair streaked or my nails done and i hate the mall... so i've always gotten along better with guys. i actually LIKE old muscle cars... but anyways, mracamper is the best - he is so not jealous, he knows and trusts that i love him no matter what. Plus not many guys would hit on me anyways, knowing that he's my hubby!! I told him my sister wanted me to come stay with her for a couple weeks outa state, he just said 'ok, when?' He is so unlike my X, who would go into a rage if i spent too long at the grocery store. What are you doing that he finds so abnormal?
You are lucky mrsacamper, I never appriciated easy going people until I met Rich...which is probably why I met him, you know? Now I'm just wondering how to move on with out leaving him behind. I'm glad your guy is so Trusting, it makes life so much enjoyable. Your guy sounds like a bear (some of the sweetest guys look the toughest) Thanks for the advise, I think finding something we both can do together is very important...you'd think after 11 years we'd have found something by now, lol. As far as what I want to do...I am meeting a forum friend up at the usss Constellation in Baltimore harbor to do some volunteer work on it , I thought it was a perfectly interesting way to spend a Saturday morning. I invited every one I knew to come with me but they are all boooring homebodies with no sense of adventure!! I can't wait
