Hello! I am new and could use some advice

Hello! My name is Fred. I am not a naturist but I could really use some advice on this topic. Recently my best friend told me that he and his wife have gotten into nude hiking. I told him that was cool but didn't think too much of it until something else happened the other day. I am getting married in two months and my fiancee Allie was hanging out one day with my friend and his wife (their names are Ben and Lacey). I had to work so I wasn't with them. My friends decided to go nude hiking and Allie became intrigued by the idea and decided to go nude and join them in their hike and had a really great time. She has been stressed out about the preparations for our upcoming wedding and she said that this really helped her to relax and unwind and she had the time of her life. I was a little uneasy about my best friend seeing her naked and her not asking my opinion first. She didn't understand why I was upset and told me it was just friends having fun and that it's not like she got naked with strangers..she did it with trusted friends. She said she would love to do it again with them. Am I making too big of a deal about this? Am I overreacting? I am happy for her that she had fun and was able to de stress. Any opinions or advice would be appreciated. Thank you!

 

Hello and welcome to the forum.

I understand your concern but think of it this way, if this was something sexual or in anyway inappropriate she probably wouldn't have told you about it. Sometimes it's hard to see things from a different perspective but I think thats what you need to try and do here. Being upset with it will make her feel like you don't trust her, it will breed resentment and it will make her feel like she has to hide things from you. Be honest with her, that because of how you were taught to see the world, you find it difficult to understand how people can be naked in front of each other without it being sexual but that you want to understand and you're open to learning a new way to look at things. Then suggest that you all try it out together so you can get a feel for what it's like. Part of you being so upset could have also been from feeling like you had been excluded from the experience, which trying it might also help.

Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials

 

Hi! My name is Allie. I am Fred's fiancee. He told me about posting here to get people's opinions. I just wanted to thank everyone who responded! It really helped with the situation. Fred is much more open minded now and he is totally cool with everything. It wasn't like we had a huge fight...but I did feel bad that he was a little uneasy about me going nude hiking with his friends. I had such a great time doing that! Fred's friends Ben and Lacey are such sweet people. I had so much fun being naked with them and feeling free and getting to know them better. We had some deep conversations and also just had fun laughing with each other and being goofy! Ben is Fred's best friend and also the best man at our upcoming wedding. His wife Lacey will be a bridesmaid at our wedding. It was so great to get to know them both so much better and share such an awesome experience...planning for the wedding has been stressful and this helped so much. Thanks to your responses Fred was so receptive when I told him how much I wanted to hike naked with Ben and Lacey again. I called up Ben and said " I had such a great time hiking naked with you guys and I would really love to do it again!" We made plans to do another nude hike soon. Fred is a bit shy but he does want to try it too when he is ready. Im the meantime I will be enjoying bonding with my new friends and enjoying being free! I never thought I would be into something like this but life is full of surprises! Thank you again everyone! You all rock!

 

It is nice that she was up front and told you about it. Hiking nude is only natural and it makes me feel so relaxed. I love the feel of earth under my feet and the breeze over my whole body.

 

I am new here and this sounds like it would be fun. If I were in his shoes I would not mind at all and if I were shy, this would give me encouragement to try it out!

But I do have a question. When hiking nude do you wear hiking boots? Carry a Fanny pack or something to hold water or snacks? And what about encountering other hikers who are NOT nude? Park rangers?

the thought has never crossed my mind and I’d never try it where I live. There are plenty of hiking trails here but 100% of the time we see other hikers.