so this is the story... we met online and we were both in terrible spots and we talked helped each other climb out of our hole and we grew we talked everyday on and off more on than anything else and we grew close and became attracted to each other so we began our courtship since we were long distance we were smart enough not to try a relationship yet but as the months wore on we opened ourselves to each other i told her things i dont tell anyone, after a few visits and more talking we decided to start dating after she made me wait to do it in person so we started the long distance thing so we could save money, we talked of our plans for ourselves and each other and it was this that id finish working were i was do one last out of state job and come home to her, so before i went out of state i moved all my stuff down with her and spent time together granted the first week was hard because she was depressed she didnt get a job promotion and that spiraled into her going into a bad spot the second week was way better because she knew i was there to help her we went to the symphony the butterfly house the zoo etc a wonderful week and the last night before i left we spent in tears because of the inevitable she drops me off bawling her eyes out and i fly off, the work i was doing wasnt allowing me to talk to her except on weekends when i had reception an that first month was good we were all lovey dovey head over heals for each other, she told me she was going to meetings and finding happiness which is all i wanted her to do and i told her or rather complained about how work was going shittily and then it progress to she met some guy that was listening to her and her problems which i thought was good because she's co dependent the next week she told me she had some handsy relations with him and i was ok with that because i know everyone has urges as long as she didnt misuse my trust the next week and week after we got into some heavy arguments and in her words she drew further away from me and those two arguments were our first even in the year we had known each other so the week before im to come home she tells me she wants to break up and that she wants to screw him at which i was astonished, because here i am trying to work for us financially and for me career wise and she betrayed me or thats how i feel i gave this woman my heart and buried thoughts the woman who taught me how to love, and she pulled a judas, the only thing is she told me that she still loves me still wants and needs me and wants us to be together again but not right now, how can someone do that, so im sitting here confounded astonished betrayed and hurting i seriously dont know what to do i feel lost i feel hurt and all i see are shades of grey, is there any possibility that im just being strung along in a game and that we may get back together because i want to do is have hope for us but im angry and heartbroken everytime i see her face on facebook or in my phone my first question to myself is why and im still trying to make sense of this i dont know what to do ive never felt like this with any woman when our times was good and now that its bad, I'm sorry this is long winded and if you stuck through reading this i appreciate it and if you could drop a line of feedback good or bad anything would help with this utterly lost feeling i have because i dont have any inkling what to do think say or even anyone to talk to i just feel like crying and moping in bed all day, thanks may peace and bliss light your path
Ywarpeace, I broke up the one paragraph so it's a bit easier to read. Hope it helps. First, clear her off your social media. Unfriend, or at least unfollow. I get the sense you are being strung along as a backup,and you deserve to be the star of someone's life. It isn't you, it is her.
look at the good side...you didnt marry her and didnt have kids... imagine the mess that would have been
The thing is she probaly does care for you. Problem is shes probaly so codependant that if your not up her arsh 24-7 shes going to find someone to fill the void she has. Doesnt make her a bad person, she just has past things that keep her in the needy role. This is where its dangerous waters for you. You laid it all out on the table and she deff. Misused you. I would walk away from this, she has to learn that ppl are not toys for her to use a she pleases. Im sorry youre hurting and I do hope your heart can heal. Dont let this discourage you from other women, theirs always somebody who needs what you have to offer.
If the age on your profile is correct, you're still sooo young, darlin'. Heartbreak sux at whatever age but you have lots of wonderful life ahead of you. I think Desera hit it out of the park with her response. All I would add is: Learn from this experience about what you don't want... grieve for as short a time as you can manage.. and then get back out there to find what you DO want! Lots of loving people in the world, angel.
