When you stop and think about your relationship or the relationship's you've been in are they healthy?
I think so. I love my husband dearly, and we have a great relationship! We had a little stall a while back but we worked through it and we are happier than ever! I think the key is respect and honesty. Remember that your idea of a normal relationship may be different than your mate's.
All my relationships were healthy at one more but they ended so it goes to say that they didn't stay healthy edit: I think everyone could honeslty say that all their past relationships were unhealthy. For instance, I could say my first was because I was a confused teen, second because I just wanted to date, and third because.... yeah. But I try to think positively and there were good healthy things about two of the three were healthy until they got unhealthy. I think any type of unhappiness shouldn't be considered as unhealthy though.
no. prior to my divorce, all of my relationships were of the codependent variety and definitely not healthy. Many of them involved abuse of one sort or another. When my father died, lots of things changed. I guess things started changing before he died, but after he knew his illness was terminal. DH and I knew each other way way back when, but we never did get together for one reason or another (he was too nice to me, and I thought there was something wrong with that). We have now been together going on 14 years, married for seven and a half years, and if our relationship is not a healthy one, I don't know what would be.
I think if you start thinking whether your relationship is healthy,then there is something wrong because when it is healthy you do not question it, it just feels right.
most have been healthy... my first one wasn't, it was primarily online, we only met once, and he was significantly older than me. I really wish I hadn't participated in that relationship, that it hadn't happened... turns out he was a bit of an alcoholic and really not that good of a person for me
some were healthy, relationships i gained from and felt i grew as a person. a few were based just on fun (which is healthy from my point of view), but as relationships they were very superficial....... the remaining ones were just silly, and definitely unhealthy, mostly those are my early relationships, when i was too young to really have a clue bit of a mix, same as most i guess.....
Id say only the one I'm in now is healthy and if I really think about it I don't really know if it is healthy. I mean what is a healthy relationship? How do we quantify it?
i think although all my past relationships could be technically classified as unhealthy, i view them as a kind of right of passage. had i not gone through 'unhealthy' experiences, i would not have held my next relationship to a higher standard. i tihnk im finally in a relatinoship that makes me genuinly feel happy.
Ah, no. I've been in several unhealthy relationships and Dietcoke mentioned, we learn. The past relationships have influenced me as whole today. I ask myself anyway if any present relationship is actually working, regardless if they feel "right". Emotions can be skewed and utterly of the unhealthy kind.
A healthy relationship (in my mind) has a foundation of trust. If there is no trust what do we really have? Qualifying a healthy relationship....well if you can talk with one another, no matter what the circumstances are and still have the person by your side you've got a good start in having a healthy relationship. (again, in my mind) I've only ever been in 3 serious relationships. First one I was too young and was after something I couldn't have. The next one was a really good learning experiencing knowing what I did have to offer and how far I was willing to go to give it. My last is my current. I've been married for 10 years. We certainly have had our ups and downs but after each down I look at how we have come through them together. No man has or ever could love me the way my husband does.
Only two of my relationships have truly been healthy. I say that because I've only been in heated arguments with two boyfriends that ended with positive results instead of a break-up. The first one lasted 5 months and ended due to a pretty mutual decision that our lives were taking much different paths, so it was best to leave things on good terms. The second one is the one I am currently in, we've lasted longer than any of my relationships (working on 10 months now) and that's mainly because we talk through every issue we've got. The other 4 relationships weren't as healthy. My first one, I was only 14 and he was 16 and I was in love with the idea of love and he was freaked out incredibly by that. We were so young, we had no idea how to communicate really, so it ended abruptly (6 weeks, lol). My second one, I was 15 and just wanting to feel loved, so I dated one of my friends who had treated his previous girlfriend like a princess. He got way too serious about me and I was 15 and had definitely decided by then I was not tying myself down to anyone that young, no way, no how, so I decided to discuss it with him, he refused to make any compromises with me ("There's no compromise, either you're completely in agreement with me or you're not"), so I broke up with him. The third one was with a guy who was desperately looking for a girl to break his ties to his first love. I ended up falling in love with him, then a few months later, a beautiful girl moved to town and apparently she was his "saviour" (oddly enough, she's now my absolute best friend). The last unhealthy one was the 6 week relationship I was in previous to the one I'm in now, with a 20 year old who had just dumped his fiancee half a year before that and was completely not ready for a relationship. We had insane chemistry, but the crush I had on him all throughout high school more or less exploded when he kissed me the first time and I became downright infatuated with him. Completely unhealthy, but 6 of the best weeks of my life. I lived a fairytale for 6 weeks and that alone was enough to make up for the broken heart I endured.
I believe that I'm in a very healthy relationship right now. It's my only one, but I've done a lot of learning from other people's mistakes and having been a witness and survivor of bad-relationships (My mother's), I feel that I know what's good and healthy and what's not. Neither of us is co-dependent. We're interdependent and independent. We know when we need help and when we need time alone. Neither of us is afraid to say "I just need a bit of alone time right now." We trust one another and take the time to talk things out if they are bothering us. We trust each other not to blow things out of proportion or belittle the other. Frankly, I don't think I could have found a better match for myself had I gone through several relationships beforehand. I'm still a bit naive and innocent of the ways of the world, but he neither pushes me nor takes advantage. I am still learning to be my own person outside of our relationship. I truly think I'm blessed. *gushy moment*
